gkaplan000 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I have been following the 180 as best as I can do. It is very tough since we are doing an in-house separation but also very liberating. We are now 2 weeks into this and there is no real end in sight. So last night I read her a 3 page letter that took almost all day to write. When I got home I told her all I want to say to you tonight is in this letter then I want you to go upstairs so I can get ready to go to sleep. She seemed to take to letter very well and then she went upstairs. She has been keeping much better care of the house and feeding our kids much better food since the separation. Today I get back from the gym and she goes out to grocery shop. I don't say anything to her. When she gets back she gives our daughter a kiss and a hug. She then turns to me and gives me a really good hug and a kiss too. WTF!! she told me the other day when I went to give her a hug that she is not ready to be touchy feely. I go to leave an hour later for work and i attempt to hug her and she stops me. She says "see i give you a hug and now you think everything is ok between us." I told her no problem and wished her a good day. When does the confusion end!!?? We are both very happy since we are giving each other more space. I have not been controlling and that feels great. So great that when this separation ends and we get back to married status I am going to keep it up. She is also been taking much better care of herself, going to the gym as much as me (5 days a week), she has been eating better and so have I. I said to her today before i left for work that I plan on us being this happy when we reconnect. She said it would be nice. I really hope that between the MC and us both being happy again this separation will end soon.
Chi townD Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Very promising. Keep it up! Go full out 180! Just enjoy life and if situations occur with her hugging or kissing you...well, don't read too much into it and just except it for what it is. A hug and a kiss; nothing more. You just need to have that attitude for awhile.
Author gkaplan000 Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Thanks I appreciate the advice. I just have a hard time getting mixed signals. But swear by the 180. As hard as it is to do with the person you love it does work and make life a bit easier. I just take life day by day and take her for face value.
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