WildWildWest Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I have been seeing a guy for bout a year... we both decided in the begining that we didnt want anything serious for our own reasons... we labeled it as "friends" I guess u can say friends with benefits... things were going good and feelings got involved on both sides... But he still hasnt said he wants a relationship... well a few months ago i went out with some guys from work, one of them being one who has liked me for some time... nothing major happened between us... just kissing... well i assumed word got out and he heard something bout it cuz we stopped talkin for months... we just recently started talkin again and he comes at me today with her heard alot of stuff bout me... which im sure most of it isnt even true.. so when i asked what it was he wouldnt tell me.. he said he would call me to discuss it.. so my question is.. even tho im sure most of what he heard isnt true WHY did he get so mad that he didnt talk me to me and why is he bringing it up for discussion if we are JUST FRIENDS? when u just friends doesnt that mean u can see whoever u want? I am really confused...
Jazzari Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I have been seeing a guy for bout a year... we both decided in the begining that we didnt want anything serious for our own reasons... we labeled it as "friends" I guess u can say friends with benefits... things were going good and feelings got involved on both sides... But he still hasnt said he wants a relationship... well a few months ago i went out with some guys from work, one of them being one who has liked me for some time... nothing major happened between us... just kissing... well i assumed word got out and he heard something bout it cuz we stopped talkin for months... we just recently started talkin again and he comes at me today with her heard alot of stuff bout me... which im sure most of it isnt even true.. so when i asked what it was he wouldnt tell me.. he said he would call me to discuss it.. so my question is.. even tho im sure most of what he heard isnt true WHY did he get so mad that he didnt talk me to me and why is he bringing it up for discussion if we are JUST FRIENDS? when u just friends doesnt that mean u can see whoever u want? I am really confused...You stopped talking for months and never asked why?
Author WildWildWest Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 I just assumed he didnt want anything to do with me anymore.. especially since we work together and he would totally ignore me and act like I didnt even exsist.. so I left it alone... He didnt come to me and ask me anything it was just obvious that he had an attitude.. and here we are months later and he is just now bringing it up... I just dont understand why he would get mad if we are "just friends".
xpaperxcutx Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I just assumed he didnt want anything to do with me anymore.. especially since we work together and he would totally ignore me and act like I didnt even exsist.. so I left it alone... He didnt come to me and ask me anything it was just obvious that he had an attitude.. and here we are months later and he is just now bringing it up... I just dont understand why he would get mad if we are "just friends". He felt jilted. If it's not emotions, it's an ego thing. Nobody likes to be at the receiving end of " just another person they're seeing", everyone likes to feel special.
phineas Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 And if you found out he had swapped spit with another chick from the office (someone you know & may or may not like) you would of been ok with it?
Author WildWildWest Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 I can honestly say I would be Super pissed! But thats because I have strong feelings for him and want to be in a relationship with him.. he has yet to tell me he wants a relationship that we are just friends... so if thats what he wants then he shouldnt get mad if I'm with someone else if he doesnt want to be with me... right?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I can honestly say I would be Super pissed! But thats because I have strong feelings for him and want to be in a relationship with him.. he has yet to tell me he wants a relationship that we are just friends... so if thats what he wants then he shouldnt get mad if I'm with someone else if he doesnt want to be with me... right? You are absolutely correct!! But, somebody who should be as sure of herself as you should be, would confidently tell the original guy that you always wanted to be in a relationship with him, but unless he consents/commits to one, he has no true say over your dance card.
Author WildWildWest Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 that i wanted to be with him but im not sure if he thinks im serious or he is just scared he is going to be hurt again... I dont think he has had any serious relationships and maybe doesnt know how to go about it... we havent had a chance to discuss the issue about what he has heard but I plan on making it known that I wanted to be with him and wasnt intersted in anybody else but it seemed like he didnt want to be with me. I have a feeling he does want a relationship he just has some serious trust issues he needs to work out.
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