always_waitings Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Has anyone ever "accidently" been called the wife's/husband's name by the MM/MW before? What did you do? Feel?
Confused4Now Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Has anyone ever "accidently" been called the wife's/husband's name by the MM/MW before? What did you do? Feel?NO but I did call my xMW by my xW's name and man she was so mad!!! Never did that again. I think its easier to say "Hey Honey, sweetheart, baby" than by their first name. I learned the hard way.
Shocking Pink Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 No, but if it did happen I would feel awful
Nissu Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Yes, my xMM accidentally called me by his wife's name; our names are very similar. When it happened, it didn't bother me. We were having a somewhat heated discussion and he blurted her name instead of mine...but its only a vowel different so I think it was a very easy verbal gaffe. I definitely think the context of how it happened would determine if I was bothered or not. In an intimate situation, I would have been horrified.
Emme Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Noooo... But I have called out the first 2 letters of my xMM/xF name during sex. I caught myself quick... I thought it was him back there for a second. I switched it up like I was singing. It worked... I think.
SoMovinOn Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 When I was a young, wanna be, rock and roll star, one of my motivations was the benefit of dating numbers of women. A bit of advice someone gave me was to always use pet names. Call her baby, sweetheart, cupcake, snuggle buggums or whatever. That way, you never call anyone the wrong name. I grew out of that phase a long time ago, but always stuck with that advice.
BB07 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 NO but I did call my xMW by my xW's name and man she was so mad!!! Never did that again. I think its easier to say "Hey Honey, sweetheart, baby" than by their first name. I learned the hard way. This certainly brings up a trigger for me as one of those other names was the one xmm called me and as I later learned from his BS he called her the same and he even admitted to her that he did so he wouldn't get our names mixed up. Yuck, yuck and more yuck, makes me want to barf and it triggers anger.
kis Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 This certainly brings up a trigger for me as one of those other names was the one xmm called me and as I later learned from his BS he called her the same and he even admitted to her that he did so he wouldn't get our names mixed up. Yuck, yuck and more yuck, makes me want to barf and it triggers anger. My husband called me by another womens name once while we were having sex. I will never forget it. It was horrible.
OWoman Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Has anyone ever "accidently" been called the wife's/husband's name by the MM/MW before? What did you do? Feel? My H never referred to his then-W by her name during the A, even when talking to people who knew them both. She was always just "wife": "I can't come for supper on Friday as wife is knitting and I'll need to take the kids to a party"; or "yes, I remember Maria, she used to work with wife". I don't think he used her name with her either, since they didn't speak much and the notes they left for each other had no names on them, just instructions. He always made a point of calling me by my name, usually with "-love" appended, and still does although we use a suite of pet names for each other too. Her name is actually a man's name (she is very butch), so I'd have been very insulted if he called me by it. What he has done is used one my his pet-names for me when calling one of his kids, and had to correct himself, but he's never done the reverse.
TigerCub Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 No! I think xMM compartmentalizes well though
Mrs. Jones Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 My xMM’s wife and I share the same name…and it’s not a common name. So if he did slip there, I would never know. We would call each other Babe, Baby, or Bebe. He would call me sweet thing and sugar too. We also go by another name which is not a pet name. One time he called me Honey, and I could tell by the look on his face after he said it, that that was what he would say to his wife. He never called me honey again. He would call his wife the old blister…Funny, he would rather be with the old blister than a sweet thing.
Glutton4Punishment Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Has anyone ever "accidently" been called the wife's/husband's name by the MM/MW before? What did you do? Feel? I have and it was awful. What made it worse is that our names couldn't be more different and so far apart, I had to wonder if he didn't do it to tick me off..We were in a very heated argument and he screamed her name at me. I just walked away.
pureinheart Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Never...although like OWoman, he normally called "wife" the wife in conversation. He never brought her up, it was always someone else. One time he referred to her as "my wife" and I looked at him weird. Later he asked why I looked at him unusual...I then told him that whenever you refer to a person as "my" that establishes ownership of the R...he has never used that term since...it's always "the".
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