Bigjohn1980 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Is it a good idea from a males perspective to not initiate contact whatsoever with a girl you are seeing? Had 4 good dates and haven't received contact from her for a week. Not Tryin to seem needy or desperate. I'm going to put the ball in her court as far as that goes. She says she's really into me and I'm just playin it cool? Good idea or bad?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Technically, if she's not calling you, and you're not calling her, nobody's calling anybody. I would say drop her with a simple hey, how are you text and that would be putting the ball in her court. If you're not initiating or doing anything at all, then there's no ball in anyone's court.
carhill Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Who suggested where to go? What to do? Someone had to ask someone else something, or suggest something that the other agreed to. Any patterns? On the face, if you *feel* it was equal, then, if you want to ask her out again, *do that*. Call her today
collegeguy_24 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Like what was stated above, send her a simple text. Theres no harm in that and it can be what is needed to get the ball rolling. During the first few initial dates with someone your both trying to figure out how the other person thinks and what you should and should not do. A simple text is not that big a deal.
EasyHeart Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 If you like her, call her. Don't text. Ask her on another date. If she says "Yes", she likes you, so go on the frickin' date with her. What exactly do you think you'll accomplish by not talking to her? The only possible outcome is that she assumes that you don't like her, so she starts dating someone else. You may be too late already. CALL HER!!!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 If you like her, call her. Don't text. Ask her on another date. If she says "Yes", she likes you, so go on the frickin' date with her. What exactly do you think you'll accomplish by not talking to her? The only possible outcome is that she assumes that you don't like her, so she starts dating someone else. You may be too late already. CALL HER!!! I second this notion. If she doesn't pick up her phone, leave a message. At least we know messages don't just " disappear" like missed texts, ya know?
collegeguy_24 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I second this notion. If she doesn't pick up her phone, leave a message. At least we know messages don't just " disappear" like missed texts, ya know? I completely forgot about the missed texts thing. Go with what they said, call her!
samspade Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 It's one thing not to call right away (or the day after) - Favreau style. But a week? I'd call her.
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