Pyro Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 It appears that the haters have been out in full force as of latespewing a bitter cloud so this is a thread to show them that regardless of what they have experienced or have seen that there are still amazing relationships out there. Whether you are married, engaged, long-term committed, newly committed, or just have a positive and open mind about dating we would love to hear from you. Just yesterday I was able to reserve a wedding chapel. In case anyone didn't know, I was cheated on by an ex and as much as it hurt and angered me I still was able to get past it because of the simple fact that had I accused most or all the entire female population of being cheating whores than I would probably still be single and miserable. I prefer the way things are for me now.
Cee Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Let me share about the many, many loves in my life... Myself: I love me first. It took a long time to get here, but it was worth the journey. I am my own soul mate. My friends: I have several close and meaningful friendships. These friends are closer than family and some of them I've been close to for over 15 years. I have 3 best friends and 3 more people than are turning into best friends. Also, have lots of other cool platonic relationships. My family: My dad died and I have a difficult relationship with my mom, but I LOVE my sister, her husband, my niece and nephew. My nephew was born with Down's Syndrome, which was scary, but I have learned that my love for him grows with each day. My sister and brother-in-law are so loving to each other and their children. I'm so inspired. My new boyfriend: We just started a relationship so it's new. We are in that honeymoon, in love stage. I am so happy with him, but I know that if (when?) we break up, it won't be the end of the world. The spirit: I have a simple spirituality based on love and compassion. It's a hybrid of christianity, judaism, zen, the course in miracles, and other stuff I made up. Spirituality gives me a sense of something greater than myself. Because I am deeply flawed and myopic, I find spirituality helpful. But I have friends who are atheists and I find that philosophy appealing too. I'm beaming writing this post. I feel blessed and grateful to have so much love in my life.
Author Pyro Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 I'm liking what I hear so far. Keep them coming friends.
Linda9999 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I'm not around here enough to know to what you are referring, but I am happy to share a bit about my wonderful husband My husband cheated on me over a period of months starting in May 2009 until March 2010, when I found out. It's been a really rough year for us, but we have managed to get our marriage back on track and things are excellent right now. He is loving, true, and attentive. We share in so many things we didn't before, and we've rekindled our passion for each other. I still have my dark moments, but between the two of us I am able to move past them back into the light, and it gets easier every time.
Author Pyro Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 I'm not around here enough to know to what you are referring, but I am happy to share a bit about my wonderful husband My husband cheated on me over a period of months starting in May 2009 until March 2010, when I found out. It's been a really rough year for us, but we have managed to get our marriage back on track and things are excellent right now. He is loving, true, and attentive. We share in so many things we didn't before, and we've rekindled our passion for each other. I still have my dark moments, but between the two of us I am able to move past them back into the light, and it gets easier every time. That takes some courage and patience to overcome that obstacle. Good for you and I hope that things continue to improve for the better.
Jannah Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Nice thread. I think there needs to be cookies and brownies though, otherwise, I'm outtie. :bunny: May you and yours have a long healthy life together full of happiness and lots of love!!!
Author Pyro Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Food was not covered in the budget for this thread. You didn't mention anything about a SO so I will assume that you are a happy single with a positive outlook and have an open mind. Good for you.
Jannah Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 No food budget? That's rubbish! Thank you for the warm sentiments nonetheless. My motto, as quoted by legendary Steve Perry, "Don't Stop Believing, Hold Onto That Feeeeelinggg". Weeeeee!!!!!!
Stung Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Congrats on each step forward towards your wedding, Pyro! I am very happily married, with a beautiful bright only slightly sulky pre-adolescent stepdaughter and a mischievous little handful of a toddler son. My husband is as perfect a match for me as I can imagine, though not perfect himself, of course. Our life together is a gift. I had good reason to be bitter and mistrusting of men, in the past, as I was badly abused in childhood and assaulted as an adult. I struggled with it for a while. Fortunately, I chose not to lie down with my demons and steep myself in misery. I was aided in this fight by my close ties with my parents, my cousins, my friends, all of whom are just good, thoughtful, caring people.
january2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 As I keep alluding to in a few other posts, a lot of rubbish things happened last year. One was pretty devastating and one would have been fatal if the situation had escalated. I could have just given up, curled up into a ball and just let go of everything. But I didn't. Someone once told me that my natural response is to fight and not to flee. That's very true. Most of the time at least. I have the loving support of family and friends. I feel lucky. I know that I'm lucky and well looked after. There are people who will stand up for me and fight for me. And as I said in another post, things could be a lot worse, yet for every bad thing that happened, I always managed to get the best case scenario ending. I continue to believe that I will land on my feet and that things always work out for the best. Because I do and they do. Regarding dating and relationships, I remain fairly hopeful. I'm taking baby steps because I don't think I'm ready to jump in with both feet yet. But everyday, I step slightly out of my comfort zone and test my boundaries and everyday, I make some progress.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I survived a devastating divorce, slogged through many far from encouraging meets and dates via online services, and finally did meet my man a year and a half ago. I love him. He loves me. We both have been through some bad stuff and have caused some of it ourselves - and we both have learned from all that, and choose to have a loving, respectful, fulfilling, gentle relationship. It has not been perfect. We both feel grateful every day.
Author Pyro Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Congrats on each step forward towards your wedding, Pyro! I am very happily married, with a beautiful bright only slightly sulky pre-adolescent stepdaughter and a mischievous little handful of a toddler son. My husband is as perfect a match for me as I can imagine, though not perfect himself, of course. Our life together is a gift. I had good reason to be bitter and mistrusting of men, in the past, as I was badly abused in childhood and assaulted as an adult. I struggled with it for a while. Fortunately, I chose not to lie down with my demons and steep myself in misery. I was aided in this fight by my close ties with my parents, my cousins, my friends, all of whom are just good, thoughtful, caring people. Thank you I feel the same way about my STB wife. Sometimes we do need some help from those who care and a wise choice to refuse to lay down. Laying down would be the easy thing but there is so much life to live still. As I keep alluding to in a few other posts, a lot of rubbish things happened last year. One was pretty devastating and one would have been fatal if the situation had escalated. I could have just given up, curled up into a ball and just let go of everything. But I didn't. Someone once told me that my natural response is to fight and not to flee. That's very true. Most of the time at least. I have the loving support of family and friends. I feel lucky. I know that I'm lucky and well looked after. There are people who will stand up for me and fight for me. And as I said in another post, things could be a lot worse, yet for every bad thing that happened, I always managed to get the best case scenario ending. I continue to believe that I will land on my feet and that things always work out for the best. Because I do and they do. Regarding dating and relationships, I remain fairly hopeful. I'm taking baby steps because I don't think I'm ready to jump in with both feet yet. But everyday, I step slightly out of my comfort zone and test my boundaries and everyday, I make some progress. Your story is very inspirational and I envy you for the courage you have taken so far. Baby steps is better than remaining bitter. I survived a devastating divorce, slogged through many far from encouraging meets and dates via online services, and finally did meet my man a year and a half ago. I love him. He loves me. We both have been through some bad stuff and have caused some of it ourselves - and we both have learned from all that, and choose to have a loving, respectful, fulfilling, gentle relationship. It has not been perfect. We both feel grateful every day. good for you two.
january2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Your story is very inspirational and I envy you for the courage you have taken so far. Baby steps is better than remaining bitter Thank you for your kind words, Pyro and thank you for starting this thread. Best of luck with the wedding arrangements.
Author Pyro Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Thank you for your kind words, Pyro and thank you for starting this thread. Best of luck with the wedding arrangements. Just need a fresh breather from all the WayneBrady and gender bashing crap.
Mutant Debutante Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hey Loveshackers. I haven't been on much lately, partly because I'm so busy with my awesome boyfriend. Yeah, I said it: awesome. Some of you know I wasn't exactly born with a silver freaking spoon into a bed of roses. I've got custody of my sisters now though and I'm working in the field I want to be in, working my way up. I've been seeing my guy for a little while now and he just met my little family around the holidays and has slowly been getting to know my baby sister, so far so good, he's not scared off by us yet! I'm happy , it's a little scary. He's a great guy, really creative and intelligent and attractive and just good. It feels good waking up next to him. Fingers crossed! Good luck to you Pyro!
denise_xo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Just need a fresh breather from all the WayneBrady and gender bashing crap. No kidding. I think loving human relationships are just one of those most amazing gifts of life. My primary one is very far from perfect at the moment - but in general I just feel so grateful for the times in my life when I've been able to experience the love of someone and to have the opportunity to love them back. There was a time when I was younger when I thought that would never happen to me, and thankfully I was wrong. There's nothing better than the wonderful feeling of mutual love and affection Even loving someone when it's unreciprocated is usually a gift to me. Pyro, hope you and CE have an absolutely wonderful wedding
Author Pyro Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Hey Loveshackers. I haven't been on much lately, partly because I'm so busy with my awesome boyfriend. Yeah, I said it: awesome. Some of you know I wasn't exactly born with a silver freaking spoon into a bed of roses. I've got custody of my sisters now though and I'm working in the field I want to be in, working my way up. I've been seeing my guy for a little while now and he just met my little family around the holidays and has slowly been getting to know my baby sister, so far so good, he's not scared off by us yet! I'm happy , it's a little scary. He's a great guy, really creative and intelligent and attractive and just good. It feels good waking up next to him. Fingers crossed! Good luck to you Pyro! Good luck to you as well. Sounds like you have a catch. No kidding. I think loving human relationships are just one of those most amazing gifts of life. My primary one is very far from perfect at the moment - but in general I just feel so grateful for the times in my life when I've been able to experience the love of someone and to have the opportunity to love them back. There was a time when I was younger when I thought that would never happen to me, and thankfully I was wrong. There's nothing better than the wonderful feeling of mutual love and affection Even loving someone when it's unreciprocated is usually a gift to me. Pyro, hope you and CE have an absolutely wonderful wedding Loving the positive vibes. Perhaps you should ask WayneBrady on a date. We plan on it.
denise_xo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Perhaps you should ask WayneBrady on a date. I think I'm about twenty years too old for that
Jazzari Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 My husband passed away last year unexpectedly in a car accident, but I had 18 years of a wonderful loving relationship. He was my best friend and I feel so lucky to have had him. His father was ill with cancer, so in the weeks preceding his death, we talked about how much we meant to each other. Nothing was left unsaid which I'm so grateful for. So many people lose a loved one and wish they could have said something or let them know how very much they were loved. I have no regrets on that score as we said it all. It's been rough (understatement!) but I'm in a new committed relationship now. It's an LDR which is hard but probably a good thing. It keeps things slow and that works for me. As I said before, my husband and I discussed everything before he died so I have no feelings of guilt that so many go through. I know he would have wanted me to be happy and find love again. My family and son have been so supportive throughout the entire ordeal and they are happy that I'm in a new relationship. I never would have made it this far without all them. And though I'm still hurting, that love has helped me avoid being bitter and closed off. I want and need to love and receive it in return. So no matter the obstacles I may encounter, I will continue on this path. And someday, at the end of my own life I hope to see my husband again.
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