ivalm Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 So yesterday I met a girl, asked her out, she agreed (tentatively but seemingly eagerly), gave me her number/etc.. but the issue is, I facebook friended her and while her relationship is "unlisted" she has one particular guy in a lot of her pics and as late as Feb 03 he said "love you" on her wall.. I think her profile pic is the guy + her on Halloween. All of this makes me think he's her bf, and I didn't explicitly ask her if she had one but, you know, I figured she wouldn't want to go for a lunch with a complete stranger if she wasn't single Or was I friend zoned in the 50 minutes we talked thus making me safe enough for just a friendly lunch? I would expect her to at least insinuate she has a bf, which she didn't... I now feel awkward asking her about this.. should I go to the lunch, or call and ask her, or just ignore her completely? I guess he could be a very recent xBF or FWB or whatever, but it makes me feel uneasy..
whichwayisup Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Just come right out and ask her if she is involved with someone. It's a question you need answered. If she is dating someone, then you back off. Then I guess you're in the friendzone if she does have a boyfriend.
Author ivalm Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 So, questions to girls then -- do you often agree to go to lunch with a guy you've just met when you're in a relationship without even mentioning you have a bf? This is a pretty new dynamic for me
tigressA Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 When I meet a guy and I'm taken, I find a way to mention my boyfriend as quickly as possible. I know plenty of other women who do the same, and plenty of women who don't do that at all. What I'm trying to say here is you need to just ask her. The guy could be her boyfriend, her gay BFF, her f*ck buddy, her ex, you don't know until you ask her directly.
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