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Once initial attraction is there then build on it


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Once the initial attraction is there and both share the same goals for what they want out of a relationship long term then the man can work to build on her attraction to him over time. He has to have confidence, self control, be a challenge, manners and class, sense of humor, being supportive. Each of these character traits are worth 5-10 points of interest level.

 

Working out these character traits consistently over time is the only way for her to give you 100% interest level. She can't have 100% interest level in you if you are missing any of these traits.

 

I would say that challenge and humor are the... common traits that are missing among most many men in relationships.

 

That means she can only give him 80%-85% interest level at best. Now that is not a bad interest level at all but it is not as high as it could be. If you are satisfied with your girlfriend giving you only 80% interest level then more power to you.

 

She is not going to leave you while it sits at 80%. She will still touch you and have sex with you and compliment you and talk about the future but not with as much intensity as she would with 95%-100% interest level. She won't ask you to marry her with 80% interest level. You would have to ask her.

 

But me personally if I'm in a relationship I wouldn't be satisfied with my girlfriend having only 80% interest level in me. I know that the relationship will be much more fun for both of us if her interest was at 95% instead of 80%.

 

Confidence is a character trait I need to work on the most. I have no self confidence and no woman can give me 100% interest level until I improve on confidence. I am missing out on 10-15 points because of no confidence.

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Attraction/love isn't the same thing as doing math.

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