Katherineos123 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I feel as though a certain amount of disagreeing is beneficial and unavoidable. It serves to help you communicate better together, and forces you to get to know the other person in a different way. But wheres the line between healthy and toxic? I have friends who are in incredibly tumultuous relationships, that fight all the time but they seem so happy still.... Im beginning to think they dig it functionally dysfunctional Then again, I have friends who seemingly never argue, almost eerily content. My bf and I have been going through sort of a rough patch for the last month or so, fighting more frequently than ever before... And it got me to thinking.
Els Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Really minor tiffs, the kind where you each just get annoyed for like 5 minutes or so, probably a couple times a week. Major ones, once every few months now, although there was a rough patch during the time when we were LD, where they were far more often. I would like to be able to reduce these, especially the minor tiffs - they're so inconsequential! Part of the problem is that both of us are VERY opinionated, however, and neither of us can bear to let what we each consider a logical fallacy, slip past. We have tried working around these, but we've a ways to go. And the bf thinks that we're perfectly fine, and the amount we argue is less than normal. =/
lenny Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 We've only been together for 7 months so I really couldn't give you our fighting habits - we've had some calmly dealt with disagreements but haven't had any rip-roaring scraps yet. There's been a couple times where it could have gotten big. One of us will go off, but the other just is in more of a peace keeping mood. I'm sure a time will happen eventually where both of us will be in a pissy mood at the same time.
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