echoing Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 We've been talking for a few months now and I think we have some chemistry together... I was wondering, does it mean he is interested in me? Or just needed a date? And what do you suggest I wear? He has quite a conservative family and I'm pretty nervous about going but still excited.. How should I interact with his family so that they like me? And for the dance, how much touching is enough but not too much? I just don't want to mess up this opportunity.
fiat500 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 more details please. where did you meet him? how do you know his family is conservative?
Author echoing Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 we met through a friend and hit things off well. we've always hung out in a group setting and now he wants to hang out just us. and i'm not sure how i know his family is conservative, i've guess just what i've heard about them and i've met his dad briefly once. i suppose it's just that vibe i'm getting.
Lilmisus Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I agree, more detail is needed. How far has your "talking" taken you? Is it just interested friends, or have you moved it up to a little to holding hands/kissing? How old are you guys? All these things matter when asking your question. But, your story is close to mine, so I'll give a brief summary. I talked to my boyfriend for two months before we started dating. Soon after we started seeing each other, I told him about my brother's wedding, and we joked around about his coming, and although he wasn't serious about coming, I was, so he did. He made our relationship "official" at my brother's wedding, after the reception, and after multiple family members referred to him as my boyfriend and I corrected them by saying "friend." But right after our relationship became official that day, he started holding my hand, and would hardly let it go, and my family couldn't stop smiling to see how happy we were, and even joked around that we should let go of each other (we didn't show any physical attraction before we were official, only hugs). Because it was so wonderful, I think of it as one of the best days of my life, and still get butterflies each time I think back to it. I wanted him to come along for a couple reasons - he had never been to one, so I wanted to take him to his first one, and also I had really strong feelings for him, and needed a date, and he was available. So it was a combination of both of the suggestions you had as to why you think he asked. How much touching? How ever much you would feel comfortable doing in front of your potential boyfriend's family. What to wear? Something classy, but not flashy. It also depends on if the wedding is indoors or out for you to decide on this. Maybe a dress that goes just above the knees, in a soft color that looks good on you, with spaghetti straps, or something of the likes. Since this is a family wedding, is he in it? Or is it a siblings wedding? If it is, be aware that he wont be able to spend the entire night with you, since there are going to be pictures to take, family business to take care of, and most likely multiple family members will be there, and it'll be part of his responsibility to entertain them. Just remember that this can easily be a night you wont forget, if you make it clear to him what you're expecting, and if you make sure to ask certain questions that you need answers to. I encourage you to try to go out on a few one on one dates before the wedding, and get more comfortable with it just being you guys since I gather you haven't really had many dates like that. Also, discuss a potential relationship to see what his motive for asking you to the wedding is, and to know what you'll be introduced as when people meet you.
fiat500 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 just be yourself. as for what to wear at a wedding : solid color dress. short sleeves or 3/4 sleeved. if you're wearing a cocktail, also include a cardigan. yes. how old are you. this is important too so we can help you.
Author echoing Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 We are both 16 so I'm still pretty young and haven't had a whole lot of experience at this (hence all the questions)>.< As for how far our talking has taken us, there has been touching, but not so much as in a romantic way; like sometimes we will see who's hand is colder or we'll hug whenever we see each other. But his brother had tipped me off before hand that he was going to ask me out to this wedding or he has been talking about me a lot recently. But I know he isn't part of the wedding party so that won't be a problem.. bleh, i fail at this. Dx
whichwayisup Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 We've been talking for a few months now and I think we have some chemistry together... I was wondering, does it mean he is interested in me? Or just needed a date? And what do you suggest I wear? He has quite a conservative family and I'm pretty nervous about going but still excited.. How should I interact with his family so that they like me? And for the dance, how much touching is enough but not too much? I just don't want to mess up this opportunity. Sounds like you need to have a conversation with him about the status of your 'dating' and if you are his girlfriend, but him inviting you to the wedding means something. It's a good thing. Wear a nice dress. Just be yourself. Enjoy the wedding and have fun. A wedding isn't really a place to sit down and 'get to know' his family, so just keep things light. But, when it comes to the dancing, let him lead. I'm sure slow dancing will happen and he'll be totally fine with it!
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