Kaileah Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Ive been with my man for 6 months (almost) and things have been solid.. amazing at times, okay at others. We've sort of inadvertently moved in together but all of a sudden, the boy has decided he needs space. A lot of the desire for space stems from the fact that I am a girl of few words, and the more tense/freaked out I am, the more I revert into my shell. Unfortunately, I now realise he sees my silence as something else. Males of the forum - what goes through your mind when your partner is silent? So, I've accepted the need for space - which gives me time to sort myself out, but what do forum members suggest is the next best course of action? Should I call/get in contact or should I just let it go and see what happens? I really don't want to lose him - I've been a wreck ever since and am close to tearing my hair out - even his reassurance that we weren't breaking up, just taking space isn't helping. Does anyone have any advice about such a situation? I'm struggling to cope, as sad as it may sounds Thanks heaps.
hopefully Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Have you asked him the reason? Needing space is the result, but what has led him to making the decision? BTW, how old are you and guy?
Alexz Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 As a fellow introvert, I can relate to this somewhat. In a relationship, I also could often retreat into a shell if I felt uncomfortable with my partner. But really, the best thing to do is to personally confront him, in a gentle manner and get things out on the table. Tell eachother you both care for one another and don't want to lose eachother, be respectful that he needs space. Explain that you just want to know his thoughts, and that you want to be open with him, since its not easy for you, being a bit reserved. Really, it just takes a mutual understanding and willingness to embrace one's thoughts with a caring direction and final goal of working on making the relationship stronger. Be honest, be gentle, and be a bit confident. If he is as good as you say, he'll understand and open up what he is thinking if you're willing to. ^ ^
Recommended Posts