NC is fine but... I don't want to never talk to her again.

[freeoralone7]

long story short: long distance relationship ended with her telling me she loved me and that I was her only man etc etc. up till the day after our visit. This visit was a big deal I live 5000 miles away (short term) and it cost a lot of money. I really believed that we loved each other.

 

The day I left everything changed. She said she moved on etc. i was heart broken. Found out she had a new bf within a few days after that. I also know there was nothing going on with the guy before this because she met him when I was on the visit.

 

Well we haven't spoke a word since I found out. The last thats that were said were her telling me to **** off basically and that she found someone better. I told her I wished i had never met her.

 

 

This was over a month ago. Ive moved on pretty well. I am happy. I am still hurt by how she treated me and moved on and i think about her every day.

 

I am worried that we will never talk agian. If we never talk again because she was a liar and never cared for me the way she said she did than I don't want contact. But if we never talk again because she feels bad and thinks ill never forgive her than I dont want that.

 

I am considering writing her a hand written letter and sending it in the mail. Just saying that I hope she is happy and that I have moved on but still think about her and that I wish we had had a better chance at being together (not long distance).

 

Is this a bad idea should i keep NC? I am moving on quickly and dont want to get more hurt but I also hate the idea that our relationship boils down to never speaking again SOOO easily. I guess i just dont understand that.

[Trovador]

She should be the one sending you a letter... anyway, why would you want to keep talking to her?

 

You, my friend, had the blessing of a clean break up, as I see it, there's no reason to look back or forward concerning her, at least you have progressed a lot...

[gator12]

long story short: long distance relationship ended with her telling me she loved me and that I was her only man etc etc. up till the day after our visit. This visit was a big deal I live 5000 miles away (short term) and it cost a lot of money. I really believed that we loved each other.

 

The day I left everything changed. She said she moved on etc. i was heart broken. Found out she had a new bf within a few days after that. I also know there was nothing going on with the guy before this because she met him when I was on the visit.

 

Well we haven't spoke a word since I found out. The last thats that were said were her telling me to **** off basically and that she found someone better. I told her I wished i had never met her.

 

 

This was over a month ago. Ive moved on pretty well. I am happy. I am still hurt by how she treated me and moved on and i think about her every day.

 

I am worried that we will never talk agian. If we never talk again because she was a liar and never cared for me the way she said she did than I don't want contact. But if we never talk again because she feels bad and thinks ill never forgive her than I dont want that.

 

I am considering writing her a hand written letter and sending it in the mail. Just saying that I hope she is happy and that I have moved on but still think about her and that I wish we had had a better chance at being together (not long distance).

 

Is this a bad idea should i keep NC? I am moving on quickly and dont want to get more hurt but I also hate the idea that our relationship boils down to never speaking again SOOO easily. I guess i just dont understand that.

 

NC isn't indefinite. The time to break it is either when you are back together or completely over your ex and ready to transition into a friendship. Until then just stay strong, if you want too you will talk again in the future, no worries.

 

-Gator

[freeoralone7]

thanks guys you are both right. No letter. I am just letting go and the thought of it being forever is rough. She should be the one to contact me and if she never does than by the time I am completely over it I will not contact her cause her lack of contact shows me how little she cared.

 

sad but truth.