LifesBeachy Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 He's great. Everything I want in a man... Gentlemanly, old-fashioned, intelligent/scholarly -- has a PhD. Mature, respectful. Great listener, not flashy. Settled down/in; doesn't party his life away. Has wholesome activities and hobbies.. I'd like to share all those and all his interests. We have a lot of similar ones anyhow. We love travel and the same locations. He told me I'm intelligent, attractive, et al... and that he wants to continue getting to know me.. And I had actually seen his photo waaaay before I sent him mine. I just ponied up and sent and my reasoning as I told him: "so there would be no surprise." He said to me if I didn't want to socialize with him, he'd understand... Of course that isn't the case--I do want to talk with him. Idk, tho.... I'm 29 and he's...59.. What to do, what to do.. I'm wondering about my future. I'm wondering: Why is this catch-of-a-man single at age 59?.. I know I'll be widowed at age 50. I use to think 10 years older was old =p then I have a very good friend who's 48.. I mean, so maybe I should stop looking at the number..? IMHO, I'm far from callow but what if he sees me as his plaything because of my age? He's older than my parents. Old enough to be my dad's older brother. ;] My friends, and my parents will surely go..."Uh....??" And passers-by will look. I mean, if this guy was my age, I'd sweep him up and away! He's just passed all my criteria thus far. Unlike other guys I meet. But age brings another spectrum of issues. I'm not sure what to do. I know for a fact he's under the impression we're getting-to-know one another in a dating sense. Should I go ahead and proceed with dating? Or should I tell him I want time to think...tho that makes me sound really wavering as if I'm fickle? I am interested in dating him. I just don't want him to think I'm kitty-footing around. I think I could love him, in time. But the fear of sex with...well, I'm sure can assume what I'm getting at with this. I mean 30 years older and having sex with him. Maybe you get over that sorta thing if you really love someone?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 How do you know when you're overthinking things? When you haven't even met him in person.
Cracker Jack Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Uh....yeah, that's a huge age difference. You sound very reasonable about it, tho, which is cool. Nothing is impossible to get over, but I think it would be tough. With that, I think you should tell him that you want time to think about it. I'm not sure if jumping right into the dating is the solution at this point. You also need to meet him and see how you two actually click. It's still way too soon to be thinking about various possibilities here.
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