annisha Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Hey there Please feel free to look at my last thread in regards whats happening, all i know is i really need some help here to stay NC coz this is going to be hard. As you know if you have read my thread my gf went missing for about 5 days, wasnt replying to texts ect. I knew that she was looking after her mom whose got parkinsons. But before this she would contact me everyday no matter what. Anyway by the 6th day i was really stressed out after having not heard from her, but id heard anohter friend had heard from her and that made me angry so i left some really abusive text msgs and voice mail msgs (bc i was so stressed and worried). Yes i know i did the wrong thing. Anyway she did end up contacting me but she hadnt listened to the voice mails before then. She just listened to them last week....and now she says to me she cant get them out of her head, she couldnt beleive i just turned on her like that and she thinks if i could do it once i can do it again. I did try to explain to her i was completely stressed out but she said she just cant get over it. Anyway we have kinda broken up, she said atm she has the stress of her mom and work to deal with, and she doesnt want the added pressure of a gf. WWhich i completely understand..but before and after those voicemails i was completely understanding. I stuffed up once but she just cant get that stuff up out of her head. When we were talking she told me she feels numb atm. What the hell does that mean?? Feeling numb???? She said she needs a few days to think things out..so ill give her that space. But do you think there is any likelihood she will come back?? Please help..im despreate for answers and so confused now Thanks
Author annisha Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 i really dont like to say lol..it was along the lines of "you are a bitch and i cant beleive you have treated me this way" ect ect. She is online right now and she is just totally cold...im jsut finding this hard right now. And yes i know i was wrong, i reallly do...but thats the only stuff up ive made in our whole relationship, it really is..and she admitted that..but she jsut cant get it out of her head
JasonRules Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 i really dont like to say lol..it was along the lines of "you are a bitch and i cant beleive you have treated me this way" ect ect. She is online right now and she is just totally cold...im jsut finding this hard right now. And yes i know i was wrong, i reallly do...but thats the only stuff up ive made in our whole relationship, it really is..and she admitted that..but she jsut cant get it out of her head Rule No. 1 Never leave voicemails Rule No. 2 Call once and maybe a second time and wait for them to call you back. Don't keep calling them. Rule No. 3 Never try to talk to someone when you're fuming angry Rule No. 4 Your ex is a bitch for ignoring you for 5 days I would probably just move on. No point in being with someone who's so inconsiderate of you.
Author annisha Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 i broke all the cardinal rules, i knolw..my emotion got the better of me, and dammit do i regret it now In terms of her not contacting me i completely understand now why that happened, just at the time i panicked.
JasonRules Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 i broke all the cardinal rules, i knolw..my emotion got the better of me, and dammit do i regret it now In terms of her not contacting me i completely understand now why that happened, just at the time i panicked. You should have remained cool and collected. Called a couple times and left it at that. Anyway, if you want to salvage it you need to leave her alone for 2-3 weeks so she'll calm down and come back to you. I'm not sure what you called her, but she'll be making you pay for a long time even if you did get back together. Do not chase her though. Just call her and tell her you're sorry for the way you acted, but you did it because you were worried. Then hang up and never contact her again. Let her get in touch with you.
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