kikikoko Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Here is the update of my situation. I really need some advices. My previous post : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=261329 We've still kept contact since the last time I posted here. He usually called me once a week, and told me about his school (He said it was crazy busy that sometimes he did not sleep). I acted distance and did not say much during the phone conversation, and he made all the talk. Last week, my car got problem, and I called him. He came and fixed my car before he went to school. While walking me to my house, suddenly he hugged me and whispered that it was a long time we did not hug each other. I almost cried at that moment, and he saw the tears in my eyes. Then, we said bye. The next day, I messaged him to say "happy lunar new year". Two days later, he replied my message by wishing me a happy lunar new year. I felt sad and wondered why it took him that long to reply my message. I felt like he tried to avoid me because he thought I distracted him from school. It has been 10 days that we have not contacted each other since the happy lunar new year message. I miss him so much, and don't know what to do. I'm really confused about us. I've asked myself a thousand questions (if he loves me? why did he choose his career over me? is school an excuse to break up with me? will we ever come back? .... )
Leandro Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Well 10 days is a long time to not speak to a SO. They is no reason why he cant send you a message her and there throughout the day. He could call or text you when he's eating. He could even email you from the computers in the library. I don't think school is an excuse to break up with someone. They knew what they were getting themselves into. How many hours is he taking? Is he in any clubs? Does he work out there too?
Author kikikoko Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Well 10 days is a long time to not speak to a SO. They is no reason why he cant send you a message her and there throughout the day. He could call or text you when he's eating. He could even email you from the computers in the library. I don't think school is an excuse to break up with someone. They knew what they were getting themselves into. How many hours is he taking? Is he in any clubs? Does he work out there too? Thanks for your reply Leandro. We actually broke up since December because he wanted to focus on school. He used to be a top student in every classes he attended, but he was kinda distracted from school and got not really good result when he was in relationship with me. I feel like he wants to avoid me so that he can get back on track.
fiat500 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 i think you have to stop texting him for your sake and let him move on if he wants to. this sounds like a mild version of what happened to me. if he's sending you text message responses days after you send them first, it's a really bad sign. it tells you that he is not interested. you know that you don't deserve this kind of treatment. he told you school comes first. cut him off now before he tells you or you find something out that you don't want to know. you said you broke up in december. if you are constantly there through text message, clinging to him, he definitely won't come back to you or miss you. if you don't do this, you will be posting on this board a lot more in the days to come.
gator12 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Read my NC guide in my sig, and follow it. Right now you are smothering him and hurting yourself in the process. Back off and let love do it's thing. I doubt he will come back either way, he seems to have lost interest, but NC gives you the best possible chance of both you moving on and him coming back. -Gator
Author kikikoko Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 i think you have to stop texting him for your sake and let him move on if he wants to. this sounds like a mild version of what happened to me. if he's sending you text message responses days after you send them first, it's a really bad sign. it tells you that he is not interested. you know that you don't deserve this kind of treatment. he told you school comes first. cut him off now before he tells you or you find something out that you don't want to know. you said you broke up in december. if you are constantly there through text message, clinging to him, he definitely won't come back to you or miss you. if you don't do this, you will be posting on this board a lot more in the days to come. Please read my previous post to have a better idea about my situation. He is currently doing his Phd, and it requires a lot of time. He felt that it was not fair for me since he did not spend enough time with me. Besides, he got complaint from his professor that if he did not work hard enough, he would not receive the fund for the research. He was stressed out and wanted to focus 100% on his school. I have never been needy or texted or called him non-stop. He was the one initial all the calls.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 No one who is truly interested in you lets 10 days go by without talking to you. Let him go.
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