superkid Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 (edited) Hi, So my girlfriend broke off our relationship of 2 years about three weeks ago. The reason for the split is I started getting too comfortable and started doing my own things. She felt like she was the one doing everything because of that fact (I know that this was a big mistake). I started doing my own things because I had given everything to her in a sense that I blew off family gatherings and old friends that i don't see to be with her. i was alright with it because I really loved her. Its just been recently all my friends and family started calling me and asking me to hang out with them because its been so long since they hung out with me. I'm guessing from her point of view that she thought that she wasn't important. I was like wtf I thought she would understand that I blew everyone off just for her to be happy. As long as she was happy I was happy. About a week after the split she started seeing a new guy right away. She told me that this guy was there when she was falling and everything and I was like wtf. And this guy had the balls to tell her that he liked her after we split. Then I got even more upset because of that fact. I had a feeling that the guy was manipulating her in some sort of way because the decision came so quickly. Is this considered a rebound. If so is there chance on getting her back even though I made the common mistakes of begging and pleading the first 2 weeks. She gave me closure by saying that there would be no chance of us getting back together, but how would she know theres no predicting the future right. But now i'm in NC with her. I'm just gonna let that relationship run its course and see what happens. I had a friend check up on her recently and she was getting really emotional of the fact that it was our two year anniversary 4 days ago. She was very emotional. So whats your guys' take on this one? I really love her to death, we did everything together, took her everywhere together, showed her new things, we both lost our virginities together, I gave it my all because I knew she was the right girl for me. But as of right now I'm trying to focus on my own well being cause I'm single. I don't have to worry about her issues right now. I'm not going to stay too attached to her in a sense I can't keep on clinging on to her, but If the opportunity with a new girl or her presents itself I'll take it. I'm a patient guy so theres no rush at all. If she comes back I'll play hard to get cause she put through all this **** after the breakup, but I don't care, I know she has a heart of gold deep inside those walls of stone. =) Edited February 16, 2011 by superkid
Author superkid Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 O and too add on i know for a fact that she still has some of our key mementos in her room like a giant stuff animal she has lying beside her at night. So it makes me think even more if there are feelings for deep down inside, because she even said that at one point she thought this relationship could last a really long time. So i don't know haha.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 You sound so passive aggressive it's not funny. Any chance instead of being vindictive you'll move on without thinking " ha, glad she's sad and unhappy?" Maybe you, yourself didn't realize it, but you could have neglected her when you were in a relationship? 2 years is a long time for someone to just walk away without a good reason.
Author superkid Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 You sound so passive aggressive it's not funny. Any chance instead of being vindictive you'll move on without thinking " ha, glad she's sad and unhappy?" Maybe you, yourself didn't realize it, but you could have neglected her when you were in a relationship? 2 years is a long time for someone to just walk away without a good reason. Do you think there is chance still with whatever is going on right now?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Do you think there is chance still with whatever is going on right now? I really don't know. I'm never one to advocate getting back with exes, but if you're planning to move on and focus on yourself, at least be positive in that you're moving on completely and not holding on to what ifs. The problem here is your ex, I'm surprised she rebounded so quickly and as is she's under alot of emotional uncertainties, all of which she needs to work out by herself. If she comes back and ready to start anew, great, but it's not doing you any good, if you're being vindictive about it. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you have flaws, own up to them. It'll make you a better person. And hopefully she'll own up to her own flaws as well.
Author superkid Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 I really don't know. I'm never one to advocate getting back with exes, but if you're planning to move on and focus on yourself, at least be positive in that you're moving on completely and not holding on to what ifs. The problem here is your ex, I'm surprised she rebounded so quickly and as is she's under alot of emotional uncertainties, all of which she needs to work out by herself. If she comes back and ready to start anew, great, but it's not doing you any good, if you're being vindictive about it. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you have flaws, own up to them. It'll make you a better person. And hopefully she'll own up to her own flaws as well. I guess your right. No ones perfect and this is a growing experience. This has made feel good about myself. Thanks a lot!!
Author superkid Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 Anybody else have any opinions. With the new guy and all, I read that you just let this new relationship to take its course. If this is truly a rebound, then it would end within a few months. The guy has similar qualities to me too according to her. We both do the same things. He also has a history of not having long relationships.
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