gkaplan000 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 We have been doing an in-house separation for about 2 weeks now and have been to one MC session. We have another one coming up on Monday. At home I don't hide from her, I go where I want in the house and she doesn't leave the room. The last couple of days I have gotten a few really good kisses from her but she says she doesn't want to give me mixed messages. WTF!!! I have been completely different with her since this separation, I only talk to her when I actually have something to say. I am not controlling anymore, not insecure or jealous. She says she is happier with the space we have been giving each other and is not sure when she is ready to end the separation. I have only asked her twice in the 2 weeks about the length of the separation. I feel that if she really wanted to separate she would stay at a friends house or her parents house and return in the morning so she can watch our 2 kids while I go to work. She tells me that when she is ready to end the separation she will let me know. I have no problem being patient with this since our marriage is on the line. I know that there is no other guy involved too. We have both agreed that if we met / hook up with anybody else it is cheating. I just don't know what to do. I want my wife back in my arms and show her that these changes are not temporary, that these changes are here to stay. But some of my friends think she is stringing me along and is not ready to face the reality of getting a job and moving out. The MC talked to us separately, her first then me. He told me to be patient that she is confused and to give her space. He also told me that time is on my side and that she isn't going anywhere. What do I do????? I need help.
loveforever Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 He also told me that time is on my side and that she isn't going anywhere. What makes him say that ??? Really curious.....
Author gkaplan000 Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 He couldn't tell me to much about it since it's confidential from my wife. But he did say trust me that she isn't going anywhere and let time be on my side. So I am just going to be patient with this whole thing and see what happens. It is just tough when my wife is sending me mixed signals.
What_Next Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 These "seperations" almost always mean another man is in the picture. Trust me. Been there, did that (forgot to buy the T-shirt). Watch her like a hawk. Research the 180, adapt it and follow it. Control what you can control (your behavior). Let's just say if my wife ever even breathes the word "seperation" again I'll be out the door in minutes and NEVER look back.
Author gkaplan000 Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 Trust me I know that there is no other man. We both agreed to not see other people. I do follow the 180 almost to a T. We are just both not happy with each other and haven't been for about 6 months. I just keep getting mixed emotions from her. The last couple of days she has let me give her good kisses even with her eyes closed. But she says she doesn't want to give me mixed messages and she doesn't want to be touchy feely... Last night she offered to give me a kiss. WTF. Does she want to be with me but won't let her guard down or does she want noting to do with me??
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