Yeahsussu Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Me and my BF broke up about a month ago, due to long distance. We were together for 2,5 years. He still sends me sweet msg´s now and then, telling me how much he loves me and misses me, how he wants me in bed with him at night, how he wants me there when he gets back home from work, how he wants to cuddle me etc. And when he does that I get so happy and write some similar stuff back. Bad idea, i know. Is this just a bunch of crap? The reason I don´t really trust him is because I recently found out that he was seeing someone else just before I came to his country to live with him (this was a bit more than a year ago). Apparently it wasn´t anything serious from his side, and the girl knew about me as well. So I don´t really get it, why even see each other then?! Well he doesn´t know that I know about this. But that´s the reason I can´t trust him atm. While he sends me these sweet texts he might as well just be seeing someone else, right? Cause that´s apparently what he did a year ago.. What do you guys think?
betterdeal Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I think you're thinking about this too much. Tell him you don't trust him, maybe even tell him why, but you're playing just as much as he is if you choose to send him love messages whilst you're distrusting him and not telling him. Do what you want to do.
Author Yeahsussu Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 You might be right. I´m an expert in overthinking things. None of us wanted to break up, but it was more his idea. I still love him, but feel like I can´t trust him because of the past. But thank you for your reply, definately opened my eyes a bit.
You'reasian Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Time for the two of you to have a sit down discussion to work this issue out. Not a 2 hour, not a 2 day - it may take 2 or more weeks, who knows.
LostMyHeart Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hi Yeahsussu - I had read some of your story from my thread and elsewhere, but had no idea he was in a "non-serious" situation with someone else before the two of you met. I can totally understand the trust issues there. I have to agree here that you need to have a serious discussion....if he really doesn't want the LDR, he needs to stop baiting the hook and reeling you back in. Hugs...I know this has got to be confusing...been there.
Author Yeahsussu Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 LostMyHeart, thanks for your input. Yeah i agree we need to talk. It´s just a bit difficult when we live on oppisite sides of the world + time difference. If I knew he had a non-serious relatioship before I came to his country I wouldn´t have went there. He just seems like such a player to me now. I´ve tried to get him on skype the past week, just to chat, and he always says he´s too tired or he´s got some other plans. I texted him yeterday morning but I didn´t even get a reply and haven´t heard from him since. Why do I even bother?! I don´t want him to think he´s got me all around his finger, so I´m not gonna reply to him now if he sends me a msg..
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