Space,break and time

[Delson]

:confused:I have a girlfriend,she broke up from a three years relationship resulting into marriage when she finds out the other guy wasnt staightforward with her in August and we got hooked up in september last year.we got rolling in the relationship,everything was going on fine,tells me so manythings like if i should break her heart it wont sound funny,cried sometimes due to her former break up,always wanting me to give her an assurance which i do understand and suddenly she started changing little by little,i asked her why the behaviour this days,she will tell me nothing even though during those times we'd had little misunderstanding,truly i dont pay attention sometimes when she talks but i've tried ammending that.we talked this over and told me she will change.we got rolling again for few times and all of a sudden she stated changing again and all this while its been affecting me,making me start thinking if i've gone wrong in some ways,i called her and asked her why the sudden chage again she now told me in a relationship that we need to understand that each party needs time to get over somethings but the way she took it was just inappropriate that is wasnt palatable to me leaving me to start thinking to an extent that i just couldnt eat,read and concentrate.She no longer text me the way she use to and the calling habit has reduced.She now calls ones in a while and now she doesnt even call again.The last time we spoke,i asked her again what i have done wrong to warrant this pain from her end she said nothing that i didnt offend her,i am caring,nice and ok but that she want to be alone and she wants to handle it on her own and that if i feel its hurting me that well she doesnt know.I am confused and the whole thing looks funny and scary

[depplover_1980]

I am really sorry but you were her rebound. Rebound relationship seldom work as all the negative feelings from the failure of the previous partnership all rear their ugly heads in the new relationship. This is clearly the case here and now she is questioning whether you are the right man for her, as she is probably fighting feelings for her ex and unsure which emotions she has are reserved for who.

 

You need to now take a step back and give her space, do not initiate any communication - pretend she is not reachable. It takes a lot of strength but it will stop your hurt and confustion getting any deeper. Only reply to her communication if she has something positive to say about your relationship, otherwise ignore and don't be drawn into any games.