Wink Tobasco Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I'm 50 and very fit. My stomach is flat and there is the slightest hint of defined abs showing. With a little effort I could build them to a ripped washboard 6 pack. I've always had the feeling that most (not all) women have reservations about guys that work THAT hard on their abs. Like he is too vain or something. How do you feel about 6 pack abs on men, and on "older" men like me> Thank You
Macaw Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 It is not uncommon for people of both sexes to have insecurities when their partners are much more attractive than they judge themselves to be. Insecure people will assume that if they're not in your league that you're just gonna cheat on them at some point. If you want to be safe, just know what your target demographic is and try to stay in their league. However, if you keep doing what you enjoy, even if it means working out more, you'll eventually meet many women who'll be crazy about your abs.
denise_xo Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Abs aren't really on the list of criteria for me, either way. If a man wants abs that's fine, but I'd be skeptical if it was a huge part of his identity. But I generally appreciate men who make an effort at staying healthy.
Owz600 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Women see abs as a man in peak health. It's funny because I have come across girls who are like 'omg he's so fit he has abs' but the kid was very skinny and not at a healthy weight :\ Work on abs for your overall core strength not just for looks.
january2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Abs aren't really on the list of criteria for me, either way. If a man wants abs that's fine, but I'd be skeptical if it was a huge part of his identity. But I generally appreciate men who make an effort at staying healthy. I second Denise. It's a potential area for conflict if it impinges upon the relationship.
tman666 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I've heard it both ways. Some women say that they like a softer looking man, while others obviously go nuts for a guy with a six pack, even if his face looks like he's walked into a few to many door frames. Having washboard abs doesn't necessarily make one fit either. In men, it indicates that your bodyfat percentage is around 10 percent or lower, and that's about it. Granted, this usually doesn't come about if your diet sucks and you don't exercise, but it's not the end all be all fitness indicator that its regard seems to sometimes suggest.
Author Wink Tobasco Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 I've heard it both ways. Some women say that they like a softer looking man, while others obviously go nuts for a guy with a six pack, even if his face looks like he's walked into a few to many door frames. Having washboard abs doesn't necessarily make one fit either. Having missed more door frames than I hit, my face isn't too bad looking. The rest of me has been called fit many times. The abs wouldn't be the end all of being fit.
tman666 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Having missed more door frames than I hit, my face isn't too bad looking. The rest of me has been called fit many times. The abs wouldn't be the end all of being fit. Cool, I didn't mean to insinuate that you weren't fit or anything like that. I'm sure the whole ab dilemma boils down to each individual woman's tastes, just like every other physical trait.
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 They certainly can't hurt, especially at your age. If a woman is actually turned off by them and will reject a man for having them...well, good for her...not my kind of woman...
Author Wink Tobasco Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 They certainly can't hurt, especially at your age. If a woman is actually turned off by them and will reject a man for having them...well, good for her...not my kind of woman... seems you like gym women then? The rest of my body is what it is, abs are the only thing no as developed as the rest. I was hoping to get a feel for the percentage of women that like/dislike them. I'd go with the level that appealed to the most women. I'm very fit everywhere else for ME. But I can take or leave the 6 pack abs. So I leave that to female opinion. I should start a poll.
Jazzari Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I'm in my mid 40's. Love a guy with ripped abs. But I would forego the abs if it meant you had to spend every waking hour in the gym and talked about your physique non-stop. That would be a turn off. A good mid ground would be finding someone who also enjoyed working out and living healthy without being obsessed by it.
Star Gazer Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I appreciate muscles a man has from athletic activities, functional fitness, and getting their hands dirty - all outside of the gym. Male gym rats just don't do it for me, particularly guys who tan. A guy who lives at the gym is rarely there for himself, but usually to get attention based on his body. Those guys turn me off.
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 seems you like gym women then? No, not necessarily. I honestly don't care whether a girl goes to the gym or not, just so long as they have a healthy lifestyle. What I meant earlier was that I don't care for women who are turned off or reject a guy solely on the fact that he has abs or a decent physique; or they consider a good physique a refection of a character flaw. More often than not, this simply reflects insecurity on the part of the woman. In general, people dislike traits and qualities in others which they themselves do not possess. I get it that some women just aren't aesthetically attracted to a harder, leaner body, and that's perfectly fine. But to judge someone negatively because of that body...? I'm very fit everywhere else for ME. But I can take or leave the 6 pack abs. So I leave that to female opinion. I should start a poll. No. You should leave that to your opinion. You should have six-pack abs for you, not for anyone else.
tman666 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I appreciate muscles a man has from athletic activities, functional fitness As opposed to unfunctional fitness?
Star Gazer Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 As opposed to unfunctional fitness? You know what I'm talking about, so please don't try to pick a fight about it. There's a big difference between standing in front of a mirror lifting heavy weights to build isolated muscles on the one hand, and exercise activities that build functional/athletic muscle development on the other.
Author Wink Tobasco Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 You should leave that to your opinion. You should have six-pack abs for you, not for anyone else. My level of fitness (everywhere else0 is for ME. I really, really, really, don't have feelings for or against my abs. They're fine as they are, but cutting them more would be easy enough. This one feature I leave to popular vote of the opposite sex.
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