RomoGuy Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Sorry Fiat, hope you are feeling better. I too found out today that my ex is dating a guy. I found out from a friend and its only been a month and a half! Not to mention I dont know how long they have been dating. Its pretty obvious to me that she had her eyes set on him before out breakup. I'm pretty sure her father told her about him before the break up. You dont just go from being with "mr perfect" (me) to dating another guy that quickly if you didnt have your eyes set on him before the break up. I guess she believes the grass is greener with him or he has more to offer. But believe me, we are never replaced, we are exchanged for someone else, but never replaced. Exchanging problems for different problems, no one is perfect. Grass is not always greener, but it will be in time for us After finding this out, I don't see how I could ever take her back if she ever did come back. The scars will always be there and the thought that she left me for another guy because she thought he is better than me for her will always haunt the back of my mind. Ive been no contact since the breakup as she said we cant be friends so we can both focus on what we need to do, and blocked me and all my friends on facebook. It makes sense now, she didn't want me or any of my friends knowing her dirty little plan of leaving me for someone else. Eh, our exs are soo not worth it, our time, our thoughts. This site is such a useful tool in understanding what is going on in our lives and how to move forward.
TenAlps Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I would also say I was a victim of shiny new product syndrome - and that my ex had an eye on the new guy before he left (there is no way he would have just gone to nothing). I just know that he is the biggest loser. Nobody in the world is like me - and based on averages, I am better than a hell of a lot of the people he would ever meet. There are few people who would have given 100% commitment like I did, let alone do everything I could in the world for him. Everything I did, every day was for him and us spending a lifetime together. Now he is having fun with a clone of himself (young and immature, with not much of a career ahead). I hope the fast-food worker he left me for fulfills all of his life-long dreams. Some how, I doubt it. I just cross my fingers it is him who is dumped this time, so he can feel even 1% of the hurt he inflicted on me. Good luck.
Author fiat500 Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 RomoGuy and TenAlps, thank you for responding. And thank you for clearing that up about "exchanging" as opposed to replacing. You are right. People, no matter how new and shiny, will always have problems. I just wasn't good enough for my ex since he was away and surrounded by young girls in college. He claimed no other girlfriend has ever done the nice things I did for him and threw me out anyway. I just know I can never treat someone as he treated me. I can never dump them over facebook messenger like he did to me. Well I hope his shiny new college girl can do what I did for him (back massages, genuinely caring for his well being, surprise trips, introducing new foods and hobbies, involving him with friends and family, thoughtful gifts, being thoughtful, and being awesome.
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