collegeguy_24 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I have a bit of a problem, and I could use some advice from men and women. This is rather long, so please bear with me. I have been dating a woman from mid-October to present. We weren't official until about a month ago. Reason being I was still hung up on my ex, which I am not anymore, I've moved on. My problem is this, me and the GF rarly do things together. THe most we do is watch movies, and have sex. Thats it. Hell, we can't even make it through a 2 hour movie without getting naked and going at like horny animals. We don't spend a lot of time together because of my full time job and her college class schedule. But when we do see each other, we always go straight to sex. This gets complicated because of our lack of experience so to speak. She was in a relationship for 4 years, it was her first and only relationship until me. But she tells me it was more of a relationship of convience. Absolutely no sex occurred. I did take her virginity though, and believe me, I know I really took it. I have had only 3 relationships. My first lasted 11 months, until I dumped her because I found out she was cheating on me, not with another man, but with a woman. Go figure. My second relationship lasted throughout the summer till August 8th, when she dumped me. Thats one is complicated because she gave me so many reasons as to dumping me, only to retract and deny them that I no longer know what the truth is concerning her anymore. Then there is my new relationship. Thats 3. I am 25, the new GF is 23. As you can see, we are both rather inexperienced in terms of relationships. But she also argued that because its winter, there is not much else to do but to have sex and watch movies. Neither of us do winter sports, so thats out, I didn't have the money to go out to the bars until now, but even then she is not really social. She also said that when summer comes we can do more like hiking and summer sports. But in winter, all that is left is sex and movies. And as I said, we can't even get through a whole movie without having sex. SHe also said that now that she finally lost her her virginity she is able to experience all that sex and erotica have to offer, just with me. Thing is, I don't know if we are more like FWBs or if we are in an actual relationship. I am so confused as to what we actually are. Hell, I even considered the theory that we are just in an extended honey moon phase. I could use some opinions on this because I am so confused.
shiftedblue Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Do you talk at all? Have common interests/beliefs/etc? Conversation is kind of important. What about eating in a restaurant? Doesn't have to be expensive...just a meal together is a kind of intimate, relationship-type thing to do. Try this stuff...if you can't have a conversation / have a meal together, then it's just sex.
hopefully Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 If the schedules for both of you are really tight and you only get to see each other a couple of times every week, then: 1. You are on a extended honeymoon phase. 2. it's not surprising that you cannot wait to have sex. Even in winter, you can go to museums, or just go to a coffee shop to talk about the topics you both enjoy.
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