Xewkija Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Let's say you guys both go to the club together and enjoy your selves, but what about when she goes to the club with her girlfriends and no other guys? What does this mean to you? I trust her 95% the other 5% woukd be when she's really drunk and really into the music and I certainly don't trust any other guys at the club. She says she would dance with her girls and walk away from any guy but the way I look at it is like this. The club is for singles or for couples who want to enjoy their time out and do something. But what if I go to a club with my guy friends... I mean were not gonna dance with each other.. Their gonna wanna dance with other girls. How do you guys handle this and what is the best way to go around it? I told her this and she says I cam trust her and I do! I just worry for her and o guess afraid she will get too drunk and not be able to handle her self. Advice is welcomed. Thank you
denise_xo Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I told her this and she says I cam trust her and I do! u I think what you just outlined in your post, is that you don't trust her (the 5%). The question then becomes whether that is because she is not trust worthy, or whether it's because you struggle with insecurities, or whether the two of you just have very different outlooks on appropriate boundaries in a relationship. Which of these three do you think it is?
Author Xewkija Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 I think what you just outlined in your post, is that you don't trust her (the 5%). The question then becomes whether that is because she is not trust worthy, or whether it's because you struggle with insecurities, or whether the two of you just have very different outlooks on appropriate boundaries in a relationship. Which of these three do you think it is? I believe it's my insecurities.. She has told me that I'm insecure and I believe I am too. I guess that's something I have to fix myself.
MarriedGuyNTennessee Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Why not some rules of engagement here? Why does it have to be your insecurities? Why can't it be some about her as well? Maybe a better question is why does she need to go out with her "girls" into tempting situations containing alcohol and single guys so badly? I agree with the poster who said clubs are for singles and couples who attend together. If you aren't going fishing, then why load the tackle box and take the boat to the lake?
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