He bought me something but I didn't and now I feel horrible.

[EyeAlone]

I know this probably isn't a big deal but like I said in my title, it made me feel rotten. This guy that I've been with for a few months and I don't really celebrate holidays for religious, materialistic, etc reasons. For instance, we didn't give each other presents for Christmas. I assumed that he wouldn't give me anything for Valentine's Day, but I was wrong. The gift wasn't expensive, but I felt really bad that I didn't give him anything. I did cook a huge meal for him including dessert so I told him that was my gift (although it wasn't intended to be) and he said that it was okay and that I could make it up to him next month (we created a holiday in March).

 

I know he told me that it was okay that I didn't buy him anything, but I still can't help to think that he's not disappointed. I know that if I were him, I'd be slightly disappointed. Has this ever happened to anyone here? Any advice?

[xpaperxcutx]

He doesn't sound all that disappointed. You're being too hard on yourself. Best thing to do is to have a good time with him in March. Focus on compatibility and progress in relationship not on materials that you bought for each other.

[hopefully]

I think cooking a big meal is a more sincere gift than any others, especially when many girls are not bothered to cook nowadays. Well, I'm a big cooking fan and I always cook for my boyfriend for special occasions:love:

[musemaj11]

He shouldnt feel disappointed.

 

I would say the same if it was in reverse.

 

If a couple always did A and one of them suddenly does B, its not the other person's fault.

[denise_xo]

He doesn't sound too phased about it and if you're going to keep hanging out there'll be lots of other opportunities where you can 'make it up'. Surprise him at some point with a gift or a nice 'experience'. No need to freak out or be overly hard at yourself.