Butterfly5525 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I’m going on day six now of strict NC. EXBF has tried to contact me every day but I have been completely ignoring him. For the first few days, he only contacted me once a day (a text each morning), just a casual hi how are you sort of thing. However, yesterday & the day before yesterday, he tried to contact me several (six) times each day & saying stuff like I really miss you, I love you still, etc. He’s also sent a few texts asking if I’ve been going out on dates. However, since he hasn’t specifically said anything about actually wanting to have me back in his life as his GF again (I’m hoping to reconcile), I’ve just been completing ignoring him. One reason for that is there was one time recently that he contacted me several times in one day repeatedly saying he missed me. So, I called him because I was missing him a lot too & it turned out to be a HUGE mistake as nothing had changed & he was still saying he wasn’t “ready” for us to get back together yet. So, I don’t want to make that same mistake again as it left me feeling extremely upset to get rejected like that. So far today, I’ve only heard from him once. He sent me text this morning asking “Hey, what are you doing tonight”? He knows that tonight is one of my daughter’s nights to have a sleepover with her dad (my EXH), so I think he maybe gets a bit nervous on Tuesday nights that maybe I’m going out on a date with some other guy. Seeing as how I’d like to be able to reconcile with him, do you guys think I’m doing the right thing by basically completing ignoring him unless & until he specifically says that he wants me to be his girlfriend again?
Author Butterfly5525 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 I see alot of views but no replies yet. If someone could please reply to my post asap, I'd really appreciate it as I'm feeling really stressed out right now by the whole situation with my EXBF.
cmh2002 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I would continue to ignore him for the time being and see what happens.
Author Butterfly5525 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Thanks for your input cmh.
BlindRage Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) I laughed when you stated your post has a lot of view but no replies. The fact of the matter is you are already doing the right thing. Don't give into the temptation of contacting him back if he hasn't changed his way of thinking. What he is doing now that you have completely ignored him might be regretting leaving you. Let him quiver at the thought of you having moved on for a while, then, when YOU feel the time is right simply, reply: "hi". You're doing great already Edited February 15, 2011 by BlindRage
XEnglishRoseX Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I would wait until he mentions wanting you back, then you could reply but if he doesn't take it seriously then I would leave it again. You don't want to get rejected it will just make you feel worse.
sammyd Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I think the same, keep up the NC. Until he changes his mind, it will just make you feel bad if you contact him and he doesn't want to get together again. Well done for so far!
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