East7 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Personally, I find that I am naturally attracted to women that have traits in common with my exes or look like one of my exes physically. Also the more I had feelings for her, the more I will be attracted to the same traits. For instance I always have a thing for skinny, dark girls, Mediterranean/Latin type. When I talked about this with one my exes she admitted that the same occurred to her : she was attracted to guys who look like me
Emilia Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I'm guessing you are young. as your world opens up more, you will date all sorts
Author East7 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 I'm guessing you are young. I'm guessing I'm older than you as your world opens up more, you will date all sortsI'm not saying I refuse to date anyone who looks different from my exes. I am only saying I'm naturally attracted to similar physical traits of someone that I have been in love with. I can be attracted pontentially to anyone but there are some physical traits that will always work at first sight.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I'm guessing I'm older than you :)I'm not saying I refuse to date anyone who looks different from my exes. I am only saying I'm naturally attracted to similar physical traits of someone that I have been in love with. I can be attracted pontentially to anyone but there are some physical traits that will always work at first sight. I have a thing for the tall, dark, and handsome. ( Sometimes with blonde hair). The thing is, it's okay to have a type, but I naturally don't want to date my ex. Just saying.
mo mo Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I had a crush on a girl that looked like one of my ex's once pure coincidence though
pandagirl Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Looks-wise? I do have a type I like, but that doesn't play out in real life really. However, I am attracted to a similar personality-type that comes in the shape and form of men who look rather different.
denise_xo Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Looks wise, no. When I look back at men I've been attracted to, there's been quite a variety in terms of physical appearance. In terms of personality traits, more so.
january2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 In terms of attraction - all sorts. In terms of dating and relationships - all very similar.
Jazzari Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Looks-wise I am attracted to dark hair and eyes in men. I've never dated a blonde. I can say "wow - that blonde is hot" but I still have no interest in dating him.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Yes, I am attracted to traits that were present in SOs. I think when someone really "imprints" on you, it's there for life. Even when you have a real crush on somebody you can't have, somebody else who has a similar look can trigger the same sense of deep attraction.
Author East7 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Yes, I am attracted to traits that were present in SOs. I think when someone really "imprints" on you, it's there for life. Even when you have a real crush on somebody you can't have, somebody else who has a similar look can trigger the same sense of deep attraction. Totally agree..I have the same view/experience. I guess women are more into the personality similarities which trigger the same attraction.
Stung Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 As far as men are concerned, there are a few distinct traits I find myself drawn to more than others, but they don't usually go together, so I guess I have about three masculine "types" I tend to notice more strongly. I have dated among all three but also completely outside of type, in fact I've dated outside of type more often than not. Someone else spoke of imprinting, and I was just thinking the other day that meeting my husband actually created another "type" for me. There is only one type of woman that ever turns my head and sparks my interest, the vast majority of women aren't sexually attractive to me but the women who interested me in that way all shared a similar phenotype. In both men and women there are common personality quirks and qualities I am drawn to which can completely mitigate the circumstances of their physical traits.
catgotyourtongue Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Yes, I am attracted to traits that were present in SOs. I think when someone really "imprints" on you, it's there for life. Even when you have a real crush on somebody you can't have, somebody else who has a similar look can trigger the same sense of deep attraction. Yup this rings true with me. FOR SURE I do have a type, a look I like. But I don't always or often date that look, because I can't find it, and I am picky. So yes, if someone looks like the man who rocked my soul, core and world, I will naturally be more attracted to him. GAWD yes, I would clone him in a second if i could, and have my way with the clone, lol. I date all kinds, but most have a few things in common. They are fit and care about fitness, as I am big on this. I also like someone who has that sensitivity chip, protective, giving and fun, playful side. I cant find this now, lol, but I used to find it quite often believe it or not. As for being attracted, I definitely like square jaw, chiseled face, muscular, type, prefer dark to blonde. It is just what draws me. I don't exclude men if they are not in this category, just prefer it. For instance, someone with a round face and blonde hair, will draw less appeal from me than someone with a more sculpted face & brown hair. AHHH if we could all get exactly what we wanted on demand, ha ha kidding. As I get older (over 40), it's way more about other things (heart, kindness, communication), but looks matter still, for sure.
hopefully Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I've always been attracted to nerds:D:love:
aerogurl87 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I find that I like tall, skinny, and very nerdy guys. I mean the type who would rather watch the History Channel than the nightly sports report. That's my type of man.
Titania22 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 No! In fact I am turned off my any man who has a similar body shape to my ex husband. I would hate to be reminded of him everytime I looked at a new boyfriend. As for my last LTR, idk, maybe, maybe not, I haven't seen anyone and thought his body looks like my ex boyfriends body.
CoralRain Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I also find that my ex's have traits and certain constitution in common. Just have to find the right person that has all the good traits and me for them in one person.
Purplehaze Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I run fast and as far away as possible to anyone resembling my ex. Never again.
mustofbeen Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 I used to be the same way, always looked for that ex look a like, unconsciously I think, as time went by all those things went away, and now when I see a girl I find her attractive for who she is, and the ex's are no where to be found in my brain. It did take some time though.
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