whichwayisup Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Well, I haven't heard back from the other guy's wife at all. He also hasn't written to my mom via e-mail at all, and his Facebook account has been deactivated. My mom is still taking an occasional suspicious phone call, but I've been avoiding listening in, so I'm hoping she's not still trying with this guy. She seems generally sad and mopey, and upset, though, ever since it all went down. I just hope things are really ending between him and her... I want to believe they are, but her suspicious behavior hasn't completely stopped, and worst case scenario, they're going to be even more careful to hide what they're doing. Meaning, they probably won't be communicating via e-mail/ Facebook anymore, so I won't be able to tell what's going on. It sucks, because for the first time since before this whole thing started months ago, I was feeling happy and upbeat, but then I get home from work, and find her taking yet another suspicious phone call, and now I'm right back to wondering what's really going on... :/ I would assume that his wife is totally "on to him" and she's going to watch him like a hawk. Hopefullly this guy is smart and will now focus on his wife and not your mom. It's not over yet, not to scare you, but there's a pretty good chance that she may contact your dad, if she knows who your mom is.. Alot of BS's will involve the other BS, let them know what is going on, so as much as you were trying to protect your dad's heart, he still may find out from this MM's wife. You need to be prepared for this.
Author Inflikted Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 After all this, they're still talking on the phone almost daily... His wife has been asking me on Facebook if anything has been going on. I told her about the phone conversations. My mom just isn't going to stop pursuing this, is she...?
2long Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 The only way this is going 2 stop is if everyone affected knows what's going on so they can take whatever steps they think is necessary based on the facts. Tell your dad, or give the OMW permission 2 do so. But if you do it, it'll hurt less. (better yet, if your mom confessed would be the best of all, but she's not likely 2 do that). -ol' 2long
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 After all this, they're still talking on the phone almost daily... His wife has been asking me on Facebook if anything has been going on. I told her about the phone conversations. My mom just isn't going to stop pursuing this, is she...? Looks like she's not. And, neither is he. It takes two, he's just as much at fault as your mom is. It's out of your hands, you've tried to stop this and it's still going on. Until MM's wife totally confronts him and/or your dad finds out.
Waitress Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Wow, Inflikted, I just read through this thread and my opinion is you just need to get yourself out of this mess. Delete the phony email address and Facebook account and back away. I think it would be a really good exercise for you to consider why it is that you could not talk to your mom when this happened. What does that say about your relationship with her? You mentioned that your dad is fragile. And it seems your mom is maybe a bit of a narcissist. That would be a really tough home to grow up in. I expect that you are used to drama but at the same time hurt by it. And you try and protect them and smooth things over? If I may be so bold I would like to suggest you try and make your way out of there and to your own home. Take this as a lesson in the dynamics of your family. By getting involved in all of this, you got involved with the dysfunction of your parent's marriage, your mom's issues and two stranger's marriage. And as much as I know your heart was in a good place, you did not belong where you went. I'm so sorry you're going through this and I hope you learn from it and move on.
Darth Vader Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) Crap. He and my mom are now trying to cover their asses to his wife. My mom schemed with him to send a fake e-mail from my dad, implying that he was the one this guy was supposed to meet up with and get drinks with, or whatever. She's even fabricated a story to my dad, so he can say something in case they call us... I'm not sure how to combat this... I just sent his wife another message with a few more of their old e-mails, in the hopes that I can keep her from believing whatever tale they're spinning. :/ Remember the OM's wife wanted you to contact her with anymore details through that "fake" facebook account? Contact her through that account and inform OM's wife of the "fake" e-mail from your dad! Don't delete that fake account! Just do the best you can! BTW, tell your father what's going on! With all the evidence you have, I think he will listen to you! Edited February 27, 2011 by Darth Vader
Mountain Dew Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I posted about this a while back, but here's a recap for those who didn't read it/ don't remember: I accidentally stumbled upon some trouble information about my mom, and couldn't help snooping into her Facebook/ e-mail account, and found out she was trying to cheat on her husband (my dad) with an old flame from 40 years ago, who is also married with kids. I couldn't bring myself to tell my mom that I snooped and found this stuff out, because she'd be beyond pissed if she found that out. I kinda hoped nothing would come of her and this guy, but recently, he sent her an e-mail about getting together in person, and he even explicitly wrote in the message that they could lie to their significant others about where they're going and who they'd be with. Troubled by this, I set up a fake e-mail account, and then used that e-mail account to set up a fake Facebook page (to keep my identity private), and then I sent a message to this guy's wife, telling her what I know, and I also copied and pasted that e-mail he sent to my mom, so his wife could see it. You did the right thing. You have struck a blow for what's left of the institution of marrage. Should be more like you.
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