That_girl Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 My boyfriend gave me a book full of photos of hot, naked women for valentine's day. Granted- the book was very artsy...and he is also an artist so is likely appreciate of the photos for more than just their content, it just made me feel like ****. I thought it was a little insensitive of him and moreover, it was something that HE likes. I feel like he doesn't know me at all. And also the fact that he's cheated on me in the past (once- he kissed another girl) doesn't help. I feel like I'm never going to be good enough, and throwing photos of sexy naked women in my face REALLY doesn't help. I tried to make it seem like I liked it, but I actually wanted to cry. He made everything so perfect and romantic last night...and then wham- the gift. Am I overreacting? I know I can be overly dramatic at times but I just need to vent since I couldn't say a word last night!!
Brenfy Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 That is a very strange gift, IMO. I probably would have been upset too. I also wouldn't have said anything yesterday, tho. But, most likely, I would talk to him about it, after Valentine's day had past.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 You shouldnt be venting here, you should be talking to him. Tell him the gift made you wretch and why. If you cant do that then you know your insecurity is unfounded and you need to check it.
Author That_girl Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 The fact that he cheated makes everything more difficult. I constantly bring everything back to that. Under normal circumstances, I would still think it was weird...but now it's just making me angry. I feel like he should KNOW it probably wasn't a good idea. I tell him constantly that I don't like even hearing him making comments about other women because it makes me feel insecure. I understand that he is attracted to other women...I'm attracted to other men as well. I just don't see the need to to shove it in each other's faces. PARTICULARLY on Valentine's day. I don't even want to talk to him about this....I feel like we've been over this kind of thing so many times.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 The fact that he cheated makes everything more difficult. I constantly bring everything back to that. Under normal circumstances, I would still think it was weird...but now it's just making me angry. I feel like he should KNOW it probably wasn't a good idea. I tell him constantly that I don't like even hearing him making comments about other women because it makes me feel insecure. I understand that he is attracted to other women...I'm attracted to other men as well. I just don't see the need to to shove it in each other's faces. PARTICULARLY on Valentine's day. I don't even want to talk to him about this....I feel like we've been over this kind of thing so many times. Then your only resolution is to break up. If you don't tell him that you're upset, he'll never know, and he'll probably never change.
Brenfy Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 If your relationship is going to survive, you guys need to work through your issues. You may be insecure but it isn't for no reason and he should be able to work with you and earn back your trust. But, if you don't think that can happen, then your relationship is probably not salvageable. And, as for the gift, you're right...under most circumstances that gift is odd, at best. Are there any guys out there that think a book of pictures of naked women is an appropriate gift for your girlfriend? Because, I agree. He should have KNOWN that wouldn't be the gift you were hoping for.
Chi townD Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 The fact that he cheated makes everything more difficult. I constantly bring everything back to that. Under normal circumstances, I would still think it was weird...but now it's just making me angry. I feel like he should KNOW it probably wasn't a good idea. I tell him constantly that I don't like even hearing him making comments about other women because it makes me feel insecure. I understand that he is attracted to other women...I'm attracted to other men as well. I just don't see the need to to shove it in each other's faces. PARTICULARLY on Valentine's day. I don't even want to talk to him about this....I feel like we've been over this kind of thing so many times. Okay, I'm gonna let you in on a little secret about guys. And I'm probably gonna get my man card pulled for this, but........ Guys are stupid......there, I said it. You can have a guy that has an MD and a PhD and he's still stupid as hell. A lot of times, we have to have things of the heart explained to us. Now, we do get better with age (some of us). However, if you don't COMMUNICATE with him and tell him what's bothering you, he will never know and this will just fester until you break up with him. THEN, he's gonna be on this site wondering what the hell happened and I'M gonna have to talk to him. So, have a heart to heart with him and tell him how you feel. Try and get this resolve. It sounds like he's trying because you said everything was great and romantic; up until the gift.
Chi townD Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 or better yet! Get him the South Florida Fire Fighter's 2011 Calendar.....
Author That_girl Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 HAHAHAHA If there were a 'Like" button on loveshack like there is on facebook, I would "like" the above post. And yes, the calender is a great idea....his birthday IS coming up!
Woman In Blue Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 My boyfriend gave me a book full of photos of hot, naked women for valentine's day. Granted- the book was very artsy...and he is also an artist so is likely appreciate of the photos for more than just their content, it just made me feel like ****. I thought it was a little insensitive of him and moreover, it was something that HE likes. What a jack-hole. I know I can be overly dramatic at times but I just need to vent since I couldn't say a word last night!! Why couldn't you say anything? Seriously, what kind of a self serving a*sshole gives someone else something that HE likes? He likes hot women so YOU get a book of them? What a jerkoff. Afraid to talk to him? I'm all grown up - send him my way, I'll do it.
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