mmiller5373 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship? Did you do everything wrong? Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...??? I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Did you go NC? Did you ever hear from your ex again? Did you move on? Did you get them back? I want to hear some post breakup horror stories from guys who did everything wrong.
carhill Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship? Ten year marriage. Did you do everything wrong? Had an affair Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...???Went to marriage counseling for 14 months. I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Correct. Did you go NC? Yes Did you ever hear from your ex again? Other than to settle the divorce, no.Did you move on? Yes, to a peaceful and drama-free single life.Did you get them back? No, and didn't want her (or 'her', the affair partner) back. I want to hear some post breakup horror stories from guys who did everything wrong.No horror story here. Only thing I would have changed was the affair. That was wrong and hurtful. Everything else I'm good with. Oh, and I'll get a pre-nup next time. If you happen upon another young lady who seems to define love by drama, follow the advice I gave you in your other past thread. That advice was brought to you by my affair partner. Good luck
2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Did you do everything wrong? Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...??? Not quite. Did send a drunken "i'm really sorry this didn't work out" type text at New Year, which I regret. I was actually doing NC correctly over holiday period and blew it at new year, accusing her of going with someone else, but I don't think she was but to be honest idk. She was beginning to come round, sending me texts every couple of days and boom I blew it. I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Kind of but spoke with her at end of January, she was quite nippy and a bit cheeky at some points but I then blew it again by casually saying I was going out to cinema if she wanted to go. She said i'll text you when I'M free, lol I totally shifted all the power back to her AGAIN. Did you go NC? I have since then, about 3-4 weeks now. Did you ever hear from your ex again? I have not since NC. I think she just thinks i'm a wuss and is annoyed at me although I didn't say anything like I love you, or cry or pester her with texts. Did you move on? I am trying to get my life back together. Did you get them back? Something tells me deep down we won't get back, which is a shame she had hardly any RL before and was a really nice, shy type who seemed to be smitten with me, and I was with her, seemed over the moon to have met me, we were very compatible, got on, she sayed we are very compatible etc. She did have some issues (insecure, hurt from previous guys, and I think have a very short trust threshold for most guys) and these amplified after about 3 months and she started going cold, that's when I started a sort of NC regime but not totally, more like LAC; now it's full NC. 2011
GreenPolicy Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship? Yes Did you do everything wrong? Sent her flowers five days after the b/u. I'd like a do over on that, but otherwise, I never called/texted/emailed/IM'd/showed up at job or home/sought out friends and family. Did you go NC? We had made plans to get married, so the b/u caught me by surprise to say the least. I wrote her a snail letter two weeks after telling her that I respected her decision, but that I would like to try couples counseling. And if she did not feel the same, then we would have to go our separate ways for good. Strict NC after that. Did you ever hear from your ex again? Yeah, three months later to get her bike back. I'm at four months since the b/u. I don't expect to ever hear from her again. Did you move on? Working on that Did you get them back? No, and I don't expect that to change.
broken-and-lost Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship? Yes Quote: Did you do everything wrong? Sent her flowers texted her wrote her bought her presents went to counselling cried wrote poems turned up at her place everything you can do wrong i did Quote: Did you go NC? now after she told me on valentines that she was going on date with other guy and had flowers off him mine probably in bin nc day 1 after 5 months of chasing Quote: Did you ever hear from your ex again? Yes yesterday and yes she will contact again no doubt but no replies from now on Quote: Did you move on? Working on that!!!!!! hope soon i will sleep like a baby again Quote: Did you get them back? No, and I don't expect that to change ever .
JasonRules Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship?. We were together for 7 months Did you do everything wrong? Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...??? I did that as she was becoming more and more distant and during the actual break up itself, but never begged, cried, pleaded, emailed, called, or text after. I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Hell yea it made matters worse. The more pressure I put on her the more distant she became. I was my own worst enemy. Did you go NC? I went NC big time. I disappeared completely and went MIA. I never contacted her once in any way, shape, or form. I didn't hang out where she hung out because I did not want her to see me. Did you ever hear from your ex again? Yes, she text me at midnight almost 2 weeks after she broke up with me and told me the candle was burnt. We talked on the phone for 2.5 hours that night. Did you move on? The first week was very difficult, but I signed up at a gym and was/still am working out every single day for 2-3 hours. I contacted all my friends and family for going out and also support. By the second week I was feeling back to normal once again, plus the working out made my confidence go up as a felt and looked great. Did you get them back? We went out on a date that lasted 5 hours with dinner. She also suggested grabbing a drink afterwards, which we did. Obviously, we're not back 100%, but we're headed that way. She is both emotionally and physically attracted to me and she sees that my efforts are honest, genuine, and relentless. So I'm confident things will work out.
JrRos Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 1+ year relationship? 2 years Did you do everything wrong? Mostly before (I was a royal dick) than after the b/u. I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Did you go NC? She "broke up" through text. I showed up to her house. She went to a friend's. I found out through her mom she grew interest for someone else. I asked for an opportunity to clarify things afterward. I send flowers. After a week and half I showed up at her place to get closure. We talk for about 2 hours. It went nowhere. I wished her good luck and happiness and said good-bye. Did you ever hear from your ex again? It's been only a month since we last spoke, but my Bday was the a few weeks back. So I don't expect to hear back from her. Did you move on? Working on it Did you get them back? I don't see that happening. I want to hear some post breakup horror stories from guys who did everything wrong. No horror story. I did get a raise though
Andymack Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship? Yep. 2 years Did you do everything wrong? Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...???Well I was due to go on holiday a week later with her family. I went to try and win her back. I didn't. I was ok the first 3 days then crumbled and went around with a face like a slapped arse apparently bringing everyone (including her parents) down I also broke down in tears a couple of times. I should have never gone, but i didn't realise it was possible to be that miserable I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right?Didn't help Did you go NC?Not straight away, she had my stuff which she said she would sort out. She never did. Went to get it off her sister without seeing her and she got pissy and ended up having a war on text. Haven't spoken since. Been strict NC for nearly 2 months Did you ever hear from your ex again? Did you move on? As above, not heard from her, moving on ok, feeling loads better now. I'm actually thinking about contacting and asking her about being friends with her in a couple of months. She's a great girl (Despite dumping me) who I would like in my life. Did you get them back? I want to hear some post breakup horror stories from guys who did everything wrong. I doubt it. Once her minds made up that's it plus the fact I don't think her family likes me anymore after being so miserable on their holiday. I think we can be friends in a few months tho. I've been getting out and about and doing my thing, not had anything serious, just been having fun. I'm also getting closer to someone at work so that's helping. Might still be too soon for anything other than casual, but I'm definitely getting there.
evilmonkey2008 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Hi mmiller, it does get better Did you do everything wrong? Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...??? I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Well first i was in a relationship with a Girl for 3 years, then just out of the blue she just slept with someone and now is in a relationship, oh ofcourse the very next week i heard the inital news she posted pics of them on facebook. What did i do wrong, erm did loads of drugs, text her, called her, didnt eat or sleep, really went to hell, yh i kept asking if there was a chance, (but of course there isnt if already slept with another guy) err crashed my car, etc etc. Did you go NC? Did you ever hear from your ex again? After like 2 months, i follwed the nc rule, there was the odd email here and there, just to give stuff back but that was all. I think she emailed me the other day, but i deleted it without reading it, i just want her out of my life. Did you move on? Its been about 4 months now, im in alot better place than i was before, i give my ex 10/10 for destroying me, she did it well. Im eating and sleeping going to gym, got a new car, so life is looking better for me, kinda of seeing this a girl at the mo, but im not looking for anything serious as of yet. But then im not going to lie i think about my ex everyday. Did you get them back? NO! not at all, all i did is destroy myself in the process, then again why would i want her back what she did was awful, i was faithful, never touched another women in that 3 years. She said she had changed which is fair enough, but to cheat on me and then rub my face in it, no one deserves that.
depplover_1980 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 See we all do it, even as a woman I did the same when my first relationship (which lasted 7 years!!) ended and none of it worked for me either!! But good news is you do move on and love again, and again, and hopefully again.
broken-and-lost Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 See we all do it, even as a woman I did the same when my first relationship (which lasted 7 years!!) ended and none of it worked for me either!! But good news is you do move on and love again, and again, and hopefully again. like this give us all hope if you didn't do any of that stuff i guess you didn't care anyway and would have just moved on in the first place
depplover_1980 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 like this give us all hope if you didn't do any of that stuff i guess you didn't care anyway and would have just moved on in the first place Huh... I did do all the pleading and crying and chasing with knifes.
Author mmiller5373 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Guys, been dumped after a 1+ year relationship? Did you do everything wrong? Crying, begging, pleading, calling, texting, emailing, saying you'll change, acting like a wuss, playing the fool...??? I'm sure it didn't work and only made matters worse, right? Did you go NC? Did you ever hear from your ex again? Did you move on? Did you get them back? I want to hear some post breakup horror stories from guys who did everything wrong. I was dumped after a 2.5 year on and off again relationship. I did EVERYTHING wrong... and then some. Cried, begged, pleaded, called way too much, texted even more, emailed long letters, told her I would change, acted like a complete wuss and total fool. No, it didn't work and yes, it made me feel worse about myself. It kinda caused me to spiral out of control and obsess over something I couldn't even change. I spent the first 3 months trying to get her back. I honestly thought she was coming back. Now, I've been 3 months NC and I'm feeling awesome. It's been 6 months since the breakup. I haven't heard from the ex since 1 month after the breakup. 5 months NC for her, 3 for me. I'm currently in the process of moving on... just had a second date with a nice girl and it's looking good.
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