holycrackers Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 So, since this is my first post, I'm going to give a lot (read: some) of background. In other words, brace yourself: I've never been particularly good at approaching women, but this latest development has really thrown me into quite the rut. I go running at my school's indoor track every single night, usually for about an hour, and then go stretch for another 15 minutes. The track is a giant oval and has mats at all four corners for stretching. Now, to be super modest (and sound a bit like an ass), I tend to think I'm fairly good-looking. Nothing great, but pretty decent. I'm actually a former fat kid, but exercise and a healthy diet completely changed that...regardless, it took quite a toll on my self-confidence. Anyways, that's beside the point. I usually consider myself totally oblivious to knowing when a girl is interested in me, but when I'm running, I do tend to glance around to check out who's stretching on the mats (you know us men...inherently chauvinistic). I feel that eye contact is generally a pretty good sign...especially if it happens multiple times from the same person...and no, I'm not staring like some sort of mongrel. The biggest problem is that, regardless of the gawking, everyone is wearing headphones (including me). I've asked numerous friends for advice on approaching a girl [especially] in this situation, but no one has really been able to give me any good suggestions. And so, I turn to this forum--I don't want to be obnoxious or intrusive...I know how important working out can be, but I feel like if the signal is there...there's got to be some logical next step. Any suggestions?
tman666 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I would advise against approaching a woman while she's trying to work out. Lord knows that there are some women (and men) in the gym that are there for primarily social reasons, but there's also a good chance that she's there trying to get a workout fit into a tight schedule, or training hard to improve herself without the need for external distractions. The safest and most considerate way would be to wait for a break in the action and approach her (when she's finishing up, or taking a break). Personally, I don't think asking a girl out in a gym is a good idea because if things get awkward, then you both still have to see each other. Unless you don't mind changing gyms in the future, you might want to reconsider.
Author holycrackers Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 I would advise against approaching a woman while she's trying to work out. Lord knows that there are some women (and men) in the gym that are there for primarily social reasons, but there's also a good chance that she's there trying to get a workout fit into a tight schedule, or training hard to improve herself without the need for external distractions. The safest and most considerate way would be to wait for a break in the action and approach her (when she's finishing up, or taking a break). Personally, I don't think asking a girl out in a gym is a good idea because if things get awkward, then you both still have to see each other. Unless you don't mind changing gyms in the future, you might want to reconsider. I guess I really wasn't specific enough--I'm not so much talking "gym" as I am track...I guess it's more important to discern between the two. I don't really workout, although I imagine it probably would be much easier to approach someone in that situation. However, it's an indoor track in a rectangular building, so the only place to really stop is in one of the corners, where there are mats to stretch...it's a weird situation, but I'm definitely attempting to push through.
irc333 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Yeah, good idea to approach her when she's done with her work out I would advise against approaching a woman while she's trying to work out. Lord knows that there are some women (and men) in the gym that are there for primarily social reasons, but there's also a good chance that she's there trying to get a workout fit into a tight schedule, or training hard to improve herself without the need for external distractions. The safest and most considerate way would be to wait for a break in the action and approach her (when she's finishing up, or taking a break). Personally, I don't think asking a girl out in a gym is a good idea because if things get awkward, then you both still have to see each other. Unless you don't mind changing gyms in the future, you might want to reconsider.
irc333 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Personally, I don't think asking a girl out in a gym is a good idea because if things get awkward, then you both still have to see each other. Unless you don't mind changing gyms in the future, you might want to reconsider. I think it's not a good reason NOT to date someone.
oaks Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Any suggestions? Catch her when she takes a break and talk about the thing you have in common.
tman666 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I guess I really wasn't specific enough--I'm not so much talking "gym" as I am track...I guess it's more important to discern between the two. I don't really workout, although I imagine it probably would be much easier to approach someone in that situation. However, it's an indoor track in a rectangular building, so the only place to really stop is in one of the corners, where there are mats to stretch...it's a weird situation, but I'm definitely attempting to push through. I don't care if you do backflips for exercise. My point remains the same. When she's working out (running, lifting weights, yoga, backflips, etc.) there is a distinct possibility that she doesn't want to be bugged. Have you ever spoken to this woman before? Does she know you exist? If not, approaching her cold is something that you need to do when she appears to be free, unless she's obviously eye f-ing you from across the room. But hey, what do I know?
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