tiger20 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I was reading something earlier about how some men will try to maneuver their way into a woman's house at the end of the date. He may come up with an excuse & ask to use her bathroom when he drops her off at the house. I'm pretty confident that most women would see right through his agenda if a man asks to use her bathroom when he drops her off at her house at the end of the date. So I don't need to tell them it's a red flag when men do this. Asking to use her bathroom is a pathetic move & it really is the same as begging to go into her house. At least that's how she's going to interpret it. Unless she's inviting you in then forget it. Begging lowers her interest level big time. Asking to go into her house for any reason is the same as begging. If you legitimately have to go to the bathroom at the end of the date then drive to the nearest gas station or pull off to the side of the road & do your business in the bushes. If anything a man should go so far as to turn down any invitation she gives him to go into her house. That's what I have been doing. If a woman invites me into her house at the end of the date & asks me to stay awhile then that's a green flag of rising interest level. That's a good sign. However because I'm being a challenge I'm turning down her invitation even if I'm not busy. The rule is do NOT go into her house until she becomes my girlfriend. Most guys would just jump on the first opportunity to get into her house. When you are working challenge & turning her down until she becomes your girlfriend she's going to wonder "what's up with this guy? Most other guys would jump on the opportunity to stay in my house awhile". When you are being a challenge she cannot accurately predict your every move. That increases her interest level in you even more. Women want to be proven wrong about their predictions. If you are predictable then you miss out on opportunities to raise her interest level in you. They already predict you're going to jump on the first chance to go into her house, jump on the first chance to have sex or jump on the first chance to spend the night with her, etc. When you turn down her invitation then she can't figure you out. Always keep the dates short & end it on a high note. When she's all horny & she looks like she's ready to jump all over you any minute then that's the time to get out of there. That's all part of working challenge. It's been my experience that relationships are much more fun & fulfilling when the man takes things slower than the woman. Study her & find out how fast she wants to drive the relationship. If she is driving at 65mph then you shouldn't be driving any faster than 55mph. And certainly don't be like those guys who drive at 85mph when she's driving at 65mph. Those are the guys who ask to go into her house to use her bathroom.
Andy_K Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Agree with the thread title & reasoning behind it, but the rest of that is just Double Your Dating crap. I've never had any difficulty maintaining the interest of a girl after I've slept with her, therefore I've no need to turn down sex in some bizarre and backwards manipulative attempt to pique someone's interest. The best advice for guys who are getting ditched all the time is to be a better man, not a sneakier one.
aerogurl87 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I agree, except I think both people should be on the same level of interest and one shouldn't be pushing for more than the other.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 If you legitimately have to go to the bathroom at the end of the date then drive to the nearest gas station or pull off to the side of the road & do your business in the bushes. Now THIS is some extremely valuable and intuitive advice!
Kamille Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Re:thread title Or minimally, if you use an excuse to get into her house, don't then assume that means she's into having sex with you. It could only mean she actually believes you're a decent chap who needs to go to the bathroom.
Author tiger20 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Agree with the thread title & reasoning behind it, but the rest of that is just Double Your Dating crap. I've never had any difficulty maintaining the interest of a girl after I've slept with her, therefore I've no need to turn down sex in some bizarre and backwards manipulative attempt to pique someone's interest. The best advice for guys who are getting ditched all the time is to be a better man, not a sneakier one. That's great you have no problem maintaining interest in a woman but being a challenge helps to crank her interest level up even more than it already is. If my goal isn't to raise her interest level then why date her? The higher her interest level in me the more fun & fulfilling the relationship will be. A woman's interest level is the most important factor in the relationship. Challenge builds compound interest. So yeah turning down her invitation to go into her house does help your cause. It's not about being sneaky. It's about self control and being a gentleman. There needs to be something about you that stands out to her from all the other guys. All the other guys will jump on the first chance to get in her house, get in bed with her, etc. The guys who ask to use the bathroom are the sneaky ones.
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