my body is a cage Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 So, last spring, I met this boy and we hit it off really well. After school, he came to visit me for 5 days for my birthday. We had a great time and I really fell for him. Then I left for Europe, and he said he was going to come visit me. He didn't, which I expected, and when I came back he started all this drama about how he come because it would have been too serious, and how he is a piece of **** and can't have anything serious with anyone... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t242494/ Well, a lot of time has passed since then and I still feel terrible about the situation. After that, I came back to school and we hooked up once. Things were nebulous... then his ex girlfriend (whom his relationship with was a "trainwreck" committed suicide). It was too much for me to handle, so I took a semester off. Now I'm back at school and I have to see him all the time and its really hard for me. I reached out to him and messaged him saying I wish we still talked/ saying he could talk to me if he wanted to after he wrote something on his facebook about being depressed, and he wrote back that he appreciated it and would like to get coffee sometime. Since then, we've texted a little... I drunkenly texted him once "I still think you're really cute" and got a "we should get coffee very soon" back, but he hasn't followed through. I guess I want some sort of resolution. I wish I could stop caring, but I can't get over the connection we had when we were together- I haven't found it with anyone else. I feel really lonely and miss it. Futhermore, I feel like I don't deserve to be loved by him or anyone. I feel rejected by him, and that he must not be attracted to me and that I will never find the person for me. I don't know what to do to feel this way. Should I pursue the coffee thing and try to forget my insecurities? I am having a really hard time letting this go.
Lilmisus Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Futhermore, I feel like I don't deserve to be loved by him or anyone. I feel rejected by him, and that he must not be attracted to me and that I will never find the person for me. I don't know what to do to feel this way. Wrong! You do deserve love, and you will find that person for you. I read a friend's status update the other day after she got dumped by a guy she had been seeing for a couple of months. Of course she was heart broken for the week beforehand, and all her status updates were very sad and anti-love. Then, I saw this one that said: even though I haven't found you yet, I take comfort in knowing you haven't found me yet either. Be patient. - unknown. You will find that special someone, and this guy doesn't seem like he's that guy. Of course, there's a chance that this guy could be "the one," there's a chance with every guy out there, but it doesn't mean that he is, and he most likely isn't, especially when you consider how young you seem to be since you're still in school. You know what I do if I get hung up on a guy like you seem to be? I think of all the reasons that we aren't met to be together, and I look forward to the day when I finally meet the guy who is my soul mate and who will meet all my needs and be there for me when I need him. Yes a connection is great, and hard to let go of, but girl, you need to let go. You can meet up for coffee if you want to, but try to see it more as a way to close a door on a chance with this guy rather than opening one up.
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