I just want to know, am I handling this the right way?

[Layzie89]

My ex gf and I were going out for a little over a year. I am 21 and she is 19. Christmas break comes around the corner so I have to leave to go back home for a month, as Christmas IS a time for family. Two days after I get home she breaks up with me...her reason being "I just wasn't happy lately, I didn't know how to tell you" Which is a load of crap if you ask me...prior to my departure I took her ice skating, we went hiking, movies, dinners, we celebrated our own Christmas together and gave each other gifts...I just don't see how things weren't as good as they can be.

 

Anyways..she broke up with me. For 2 weeks I made the mistake most men do...called her...texted her sweet things. This only seemed to push her away further, to the point where she was ignoring my calls and ignoring my texts. Another 2 weeks go by and in this 2 weeks she texted me random stupid questions not having relevance to our issues. All of which I stupidly replied.

 

I get back to where we live on Jan 20th, for another week I try to meet with her, call her, text her...to no avail, she's always "busy".

 

On Jan 27 I sent my final text just saying bye and have been NC since then...a little over 2 weeks going on 3 so far.

 

I've deleted her from facebook a long time ago...deleted my Whatsapp (messenger app). I still leave my facebook wall open for everyone to see, and I find myself posting updates of all the fun things I've been doing lately in hopes that she's reading it and seeing that I'm not completely broken by our breakup. Is this a form of communication, in a sense? Should I make my wall private so she can't see any of it?

 

Any advice/input would be appreciated...I guess I just want to know if I'm playing my cards right or not. Thanks in advance

[depplover_1980]

Tricky one - there are pros for both but my instinct says private. She won't be able to spy on you and it MAY make her contact you more, to which you mainly ignore unless she misses you and wants you back!!

[Layzie89]

Thanks depplover, I'll make be making my profile private later on tonight.

 

As for the breakup...I just don't understand how things became so bad between us. We were doing so well, or so I thought. She completely switched up on me...and I know she knows the way she broke up with me and afterwards was very cruel and harsh. A year and a half together and she doesn't even care enough to meet with me let alone call to talk about the breakup when I got back from my Christmas break.

 

I'm not going to lie, I'm still hoping this NC makes her realize how good I was for her and that she'll want to come back to me. Only time will tell...NC going on 3 weeks has surely helped with the pain, however.

 

Thanks again.

[depplover_1980]

Layzie, as you can tell from the stories on here it's one of lifes mysteries why people switch like that. It does seem not contacting and be elusive is the best way to be in these instances, but if she did come back make sure she was damn sorry!!