SweetyBear Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We had a breakup for about six months in there, but got back together more than a year ago. Anyway... We have been having troubles again. Mostly, it's because he works constantly. I honestly have not seen him since Christmas and he is only an hour away. I have suggested just dinner or just coffee or something. I will meet him wherever. He can meet me. Thing is, I don't feel very valued at all. Everything else comes first. To the point of being stood up. As in, he makes actual plans with me and then I do not hear from him at all. He is a police officer and I know that things come up and it can't be helped, but when it happens four or five times in a row, I'm sorry it makes me mad. Anyway, I let him know the weekend before last that it really made me angry and that I wanted a promise from him of one uninterrupted date night per month that is to be considered unbreakable and if he has to cancel then he needs to call me and cancel and not just assume I will understand. I thought that was asking for very little. He just did it again on Saturday...you know, like two days ago. We had plans and then he decided to go and do a security detail at a bar instead. He didn't call me. I was waiting since 5:30 for him to let me know he was on his way because that is what time he was supposed to be done with everything that was going on that day. I finally got a hold of him at 9:00 that evening. He said something to the effect of calling me when he was done at the bar. I told him not to bother. He said what just come over and don't bother to call? And I said no, don't bother coming over because I don't want to see you. He asked when I might want to see him again and I told him I don't know. I haven't heard from him nor have I called him. It's only been one full day, but still. I feel like if he has any intention of making it right, he would've called by now. Then I thought maybe he misinterpreted me saying I don't know when I'll want to see him as me saying don't call me, I'll call you. If this is it, then this is it and I'll accept that because it's been going not so well anyway, but I'd hate for this to be it because he and I just aren't understanding each other.
lalasweetheart Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 It sounds to me like you deserve someone much better, I would advise not to contact him as you'll only get sucked in to his web again. I know it's hard, I've just ended it with a guy I've loved and lived with for four years but we have to be strong and remember that there's a better life for us somewhere out there
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