evilmonkey2008 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Hello all, first of all thank you to all of those on love shack who have helped me through my break up, omg i dont want to go there again. I was dating this girl for three years, then one weekend out of the blue she slept with another guy and now is in a relationship. I dont know what happened, she said she changed. They way she broke up with me was awful just over a text, then bam she slept with a guy and then started posting pics of them on face book. I really could not understand it, we were not aruging or anything i thought everything was fine. Now im not saying i was perfect, but in our 3 years together i never touched another woman, i was never abusive. Yes of course we had arguments. But did i deserve to be dumped like that?!? Did i really deserve all that heart break, i dont understand why she turned and im made out to be the bad guy, i was faithful!
smudge21 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 No you're not the bad guy, and in a sense she's not the bad girl either. She's just someone who changed her mind. Maybe it was something she had building up for a while (usually is) or the grass is greener syndrome, who knows.. you will never truly find out. The way she handled it was out of order, but sadly some people don't consider others feelings. I had an ex send an email talking about this guy she'd slept with - she was supposed to send it to a friend, but sent it to me instead. Heart broken hardly describes it! I think with Facebook situations like this will just continue. That thing should have a message pop up when someone changes their status from 'in a relationship' to 'single'. Something like "before you post any images, just remember, your ex may see them"... just a little reminder. Just try to accept that people change and there's nothing you could've really done to alter the outcome. Remember that this is not a reflection on you in any way. It was her choice... and her loss. You can, and will, do better!
SweetyBear Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 No, you didn't deserve it. She should've talked to you about the issues she was having. To break up in a text just makes her a coward. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
depplover_1980 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 No you're not the bad guy, and in a sense she's not the bad girl either. She's just someone who changed her mind. Maybe it was something she had building up for a while (usually is) or the grass is greener syndrome, who knows.. you will never truly find out. The way she handled it was out of order, but sadly some people don't consider others feelings. I had an ex send an email talking about this guy she'd slept with - she was supposed to send it to a friend, but sent it to me instead. Heart broken hardly describes it! I think with Facebook situations like this will just continue. That thing should have a message pop up when someone changes their status from 'in a relationship' to 'single'. Something like "before you post any images, just remember, your ex may see them"... just a little reminder. Just try to accept that people change and there's nothing you could've really done to alter the outcome. Remember that this is not a reflection on you in any way. It was her choice... and her loss. You can, and will, do better! Smudge, though I agree with your post she was the bad girl - there is no excuse for cheating and this makes her an inferior human being on a moral scale at least to the OP.
smudge21 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Yeah sorry, I misread the post - I thought they'd split up and then she'd slept with someone. For cheating I agree, that is about as bad as it gets. When people just fall out of love that's different, but cheaters are bad. So sorry for saying the wrong thing there. In answer to the question, no you didn't deserve it.
depplover_1980 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Yeah sorry, I misread the post - I thought they'd split up and then she'd slept with someone. For cheating I agree, that is about as bad as it gets. When people just fall out of love that's different, but cheaters are bad. So sorry for saying the wrong thing there. In answer to the question, no you didn't deserve it. Bless you.
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