Heatemyheart89 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Anyone think they are just in love with a fantasy not a reality?I miss my ex the good bits but I seem to have completely forgotten he's a total rotter that treated me like crap!I honestly do not know why ahhhh!
smudge21 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Oh God yeah, too right. Totally with you on this one. We build them up and then can only see them in this rose-tinted light. We know their bad points, but can only focus on the good. My ex, in my mind, is still the same girl I met, got to know, got friendly with and eventually became more than friends with. In my mind she's this amazing friendly kind considerate charming beautiful person who I love more than anything, but that person, in reality, has long gone. I know her now as someone un-trustworthy, confused, immature and not ready for a long term relationship.... but I still see her as the girl I first met. Only when I've finally moved on will I be able to accept the truth.
Bluebelle38 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 So true. What I miss: The funny, charming and generous man that looked out for me and seemed to love my company. What I refuse to see: Drank too much, commitment phobe that was so cruel at the end if left my head spinning, knew all along he'd leave me devastated, lied, cheated (am fairly sure he did, we were a LDR), very stingy with compliments. Didnt reply to texts, left me hanging all the time. I am going to focus on what I have been refusing to see. I think that is going to speed up the healing process.
betterdeal Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Don't feel sad that it's over; be happy it happened. Reminisce on the good times and learn from the bad times.
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