Author tami-chan Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 As u said it yourself, yes u r nuts. Thanks musemaj11 ... so profound~ Ok..this is an update. So earlier today I had a phone conversation with my BF and I told him that I was wearing the beautiful earrings he gave me for Valentines . Here's the gist of the convo: Him: Oh good, I'm glad. Me: Yeah..thank you again, they are beautiful! Him: hmmm...good...good...btw...let me ask you something...were you disappointed about the gift? Me: <oh crap here goes!>...HUH? disappointed? of course not! they are beautiful...really....I mean, i have like silly thoughts...but you know me...the gift was perfect!!!!! Him:...really...sometimes I wish you would just be candid with how you feel-it would just make life so much easier. Me: I make your life difficult? Him: I did not say that or rather I did not say it the way you seem to think I said it. Me: You are confusing me...if you are not happy, you should just tell me. Him: Jesus... Me: Jesus? are you upset? why are you upset? him: I am not upset...look forget it...everything is okay...I am happy you like the gift... Anyway, we ended the conversation kind of in a "blah" way....I am not really sure why I feel I did something wrong... ..
bayouboi Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 lmao...poor guy....perfect example of how screwed up women can be Him:...really...sometimes I wish you would just be candid with how you feel-it would just make life so much easier. Me: I make your life difficult?hahahaha...it's like something out of an american pie type movie and he's jason biggs and the audience just feels sorry for him
whichwayisup Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I don't want to get married in general. I don't understand the disappointment either and I need to understand it because this is HORRIBLE!!!!! Does he know you have no interest in ever getting married? If not, it's best to let him know..Soon. How do you feel about living together? Common law spouses?
dispatch3d Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 /////////// Me: I make your life difficult? Him: I did not say that or rather I did not say it the way you seem to think I said it. Me: You are confusing me...if you are not happy, you should just tell me. Him: Jesus... Me: Jesus? are you upset? why are you upset? him: I am not upset...look forget it...everything is okay...I am happy you like the gift... ///// What makes you think he's "settling" or he "makes your life difficult"? And who the hell is this "friend" and I mean ""FRIEND"" who keeps telling you he is settling. lkja;ldfkj;lasjfd;lkajsf I would want to punch that friend. Finally, this isn't as if you either get married or you aren't married. Relationshpis don't fall neatly into an unmarried or married category. Your pulling some all or nothing thinking there that doesn't help things. And double finally haha stop focusing so much on something that is so pie in the sky. There's no need to thik about wether you will or won't marry him in the future. Cross that bridge when the relationship feels right.
Author tami-chan Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 lmao...poor guy....perfect example of how screwed up women can be hahahaha...it's like something out of an american pie type movie and he's jason biggs and the audience just feels sorry for him I know bayouboi,,,I read the post and I laughed then I realized,,,my gosh, what a MANEUVER....I totally deflected the whole "gift thing" into another topic... I need to learn to communicate better. Truth is, I really did not want him to ask me about it just because it was a momentary disappointment...nothing serious. WWIU: Does he know I do not EVER want to get married? No, he does not know that how can he know that when I do not know that myself? I only know that right now, I do not want to be married or live together and he knows that. Dispatched: Yes, I want to just cross the bridge...sometimes I get affected by people who tell me to "let him go" to "marry him"....thanks for the your response.
johan Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Seems obvious to me: you want him to want to marry you. Maybe you've been assuming he does. But the earrings kind of put you on a little roller coaster, and the end result is the suspicion that he doesn't actually want to. I don't think you should jump to that conclusion. But if he doesn't it's most likely because of your backward political beliefs. That's something you should probably work on.
Author tami-chan Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Seems obvious to me: you want him to want to marry you. Maybe you've been assuming he does. But the earrings kind of put you on a little roller coaster, and the end result is the suspicion that he doesn't actually want to. I don't think you should jump to that conclusion. aiyoh Johan.. I think you are right. I assumed he will ALWAYS want to marry me-after all, he still says he wants to be with me "forever"-in the past, it has always meant he wanted to be married to me-perhaps, it has changed. I think I should heave a sigh of relief..I will work on that. I do not have major issues in adjusting to new developments in relationships. But if he doesn't it's most likely because of your backward political beliefs. That's something you should probably work on. He is a big lib...as a matter of fact, I even attended a dem fund raising with him months ago. I thought it was my gown that was uncomfortable(too revealing in the back) or my shoes(too high), but no it was the people around me whining about all kinds of stuff.
johan Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Well, I'll marry you if he doesn't come through for you. Hope that helps.
Author tami-chan Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Well, I'll marry you if he doesn't come through for you. Hope that helps. !!! Of course you will say that because I have already said I do not want to marry anybody! Anyhow, that was sweet:love:!
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