Bateman Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I was thinking the other day and trying to find instances in which couples have gotten back together successfully and I thought of two relationships. The first one that I know of were high school sweet hearts. When they both went their separate ways to different colleges they tried long distance but it didn't work for the most part. They had broken up for maybe a year and a half or so and dated other people. I guess a couple of years ago they reunited and have been happily together ever since. The second one is a bit strange. It involves my ex's best friend and her boyfriend. This guy was physically abusive and they had broken up many times only to have both of them crawling back to each other. Like I said strange. Despite everyone telling her to leave him for good she always went back to him. I hear they are in counseling but I still think she should have left him for good. Yes, it does happen; people get back together BUT I have yet to hear of an instance when someone fell out of love and then fell back in love. I think this is the hardest type to get back. Any thoughts or stories?
gator12 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Agreed, falling out of love is something that is near impossible to change, as is simply not being right for each other. My first love and I dated once for a few months, broke up and didn't talk for a year. Met her again a year later (she was dating another guy) we fell in love instantly again, broke up with him for me. Lol then with me for him 3 months later. But then we got back together after a period fo about a month and lasted a wonderful year. It helped that she was my best friend before we dated so we were naturally close and had the love there but sometimes it's not meant to be. My current ex and I just broke up 3 months ago I think. And we had the most real love I have ever felt in my life, I never told her (because you shouldnt rush into it) but I could've seen myself spending my whole life with this girl. We're still broken up, but she is slowly reaching back out to me. We broke up because of a bunch of small problems and behaviors on my part that essentially made her doubt us and made her feel unnappreciated. Idk I hope to get her back, I would really like a proper go at it. We deserve it. -Gator
Author Bateman Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Good luck with that. It would help a lot of people on this forum if it worked out for you guys. My ex said for a while that she was not in love with me anymore (despite the fact that she acted like she was) and things just went downhill from there. Been broken up for 3 months, NC for almost 3 weeks. Seems like it's getting more and more difficult even though I know it's helping me actually move on instead of holding on to false hope. Oh yeah, and it's Valentine's Day.
broken-and-lost Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 lol i just got the i love you but im not in love with you line and i can't go back its NC all the way from now on total heart break should have goes NC from start no second chances ever here just long road of healing and staring fresh at 36 god help me
chelle21689 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 enotalone has tons and tons of stories on this thread http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=278592
gator12 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Yea I think it would too. I mean my thread has something like 4000 vies now, it would be completely awful for not only me but everyone else who looks to my thread with hope to see it end in nothing. Ahh well who knows, I am definitly not going to jinx this. If it happens it was meant to be, if not then I just have to suck it up and move on. Lol well that part is actually easy because even though I want her back I don't cling to the hope that she may come back. I think that's the stage people need to reach before they can really say they're moved on. Idk, I hope it works out so I can have another makeup story to post on here, well maybe not the whole story lol. Maybe just the link to the thread. Stay strong guys, in NC the only way you can go is up. With or without your ex, it gets harder first but I swear you get to that point and it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. -Gator
Author Bateman Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Gator, I agree with the realization and not holding out hope. I was doing that for the first two months of my breakup. Just went NC and few weeks ago after I told her how I felt (I was in the friends zone and it was constant push and pull). I needed to let her know because it thought it would give me closure. It did. After I had talked to her, I felt a giant weight had been lifted off of my shoulders and I felt fine for about 2 weeks. The last couple of days has been difficult for some reason though and I feel like I am losing control. I will not contact her and I get the feeling she will never contact me. It just seems like she has moved on already. Letting go IS the hardest part I think.
gator12 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Oooo by far, and in some ways you never completely let go. The only way to really do it is to take time. Time is the only thing that really heals and I know I'll get to that point eventually but I am just glad I haven't felt any real lows even with all of this recent contact by her. Just stay strong, it gets better over time. -Gator
Author Bateman Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 well it seems that people stop posting on here when they are happy again so whatever happens with you we would like to know. I know I stopped using the forum when I thought there was a chance with my ex. Now i'm back haha...
gator12 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Well I would probably be guilty of that myself, at least posting on here a lot less. But I would at least let everyone know the good outcome I mean, hearing the bright side of things can really help people out. -Gator
broken-and-lost Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Hey gator i've really enjoyed reading you thought on here and they have helped me i got a massive blow last night when my ex told me a guy she works with is giving her flowers and she is going on date. she told me its over and she can never forget or go back which has broken me 5 months down the line i'm now going NC but hurting with the realisation that now it's truly over
Google1000 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 In my case my ex (she was my first love and girlfriend of ~5 years) fell out of love with me because of GIGS. We are in college, but only a year from graduating. It's almost as if she knows she only has a year left of college, and is trying to have a ton of fun without being tied down to a relationship. It just sucks because I know her and I are completely compatible. She only started drifting away from me when she got into some organization and met about 20-30 new people and always wanted to go do stuff with them rather than spend time with me and our mutual friends. The worst feeling in the world is knowing that we were about to finally start our life together, but then she got an extreme case of GIGS syndrome and broke up a perfectly healthy and wonderful relationship.
gator12 Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Hey gator i've really enjoyed reading you thought on here and they have helped me i got a massive blow last night when my ex told me a guy she works with is giving her flowers and she is going on date. she told me its over and she can never forget or go back which has broken me 5 months down the line i'm now going NC but hurting with the realisation that now it's truly over NC would have blunted this a little bit if you had done it but too late for that. I'm sorry for that, but NC right now is the best bet for you, it will help you move on and be happy. Dont worry a wonderful girl is out there for you, being sad only makes it harder to see her. -Gator
Author Bateman Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 People change when they are young. In the year me and my ex dated she had graduated from college, was thrown into the stress of nursing grave yard shift, moved out of her moms house (and away from me), and ultimately fell out of love with me. She is moving on with this new life of hers and I'm stuck the same place. Sometimes it may be GIGS but sometimes people just change and move on. Sh*t happens and the more we fight it, the harder we make it for ourselves. If you stop fighting it and let go, then maybe (MAYBE!) they will come back later.
broken-and-lost Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 NC would have blunted this a little bit if you had done it but too late for that. I'm sorry for that, but NC right now is the best bet for you, it will help you move on and be happy. Dont worry a wonderful girl is out there for you, being sad only makes it harder to see her. -Gator cheers m8y total NC from now on crumbs over she had just lead me along until this point say she still felt the sam blah blah.........
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