worldgonewrong Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Wow, so this is the 1st Valentine's Day I've ever had a negative feeling about. 15 years ago we got engaged. And now, we're separated and not speaking with each other, save for LC when it comes to our kids. Amazing. Just started this post so others can vent, too.
What_Next Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Well this year should hold some significance for me, since we are trying to reconcile, but in all reality it doesn't. In fact I detest this day. A day where we are almost mandated to "show our love", oh for heavens sake. I try and do that every single day. I know this isn't necessarily inline with your intent, but this day is complete bulls__t to me, always has been.
PegNosePete Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 It's the first V day I've not felt pressured into going to an overcrowded restaurant, buying ridiculously expensive gifts, and succumbing to the corporate money-making card-machine. This day is obviously invented to sell cards, just like mother's day and father's day. If you need a special day to express your love to someone then you obviously have problems expressing your feelings on the other 364 days of the year (I don't mean you OP, just people in general). JMO.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Its the first Vday since... 2006 where I can go out by myself and smile at the other singles My car is all shiney and ready to get some attentions
2.50 a gallon Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 W-N / PNP You are totally right. It was invented to sell things, as was Mother's Day. Just like it is important that you pay your respects to your mother on mother's day, so too it is important that you honor Valentine's Day. Women think differently then men. Growing up, Valentine's day is part of their life, and it becomes important to them. Yes, we tell them every day we love them, but to them this day is extra special because this is part of their life. Part of the reason they love us is the love chemical thing. You show them affection on this day, and the love chemicals flow to their brain. In short they love you a little bit more. It you ignore, you get the opposite reaction Christmas is the biggest of all the holidays that were invented to sell things. About three years after I moved out and got my own place I discovered an interesting phenomenon. I would develop a summer romance, it would continue into fall and the holidays, but every year by the time the Super Bowl came around I was on my own. It was like clock work. My two closest buddies were experiencing the same thing. We would all watch the game together and bemoan our just departed lady. The fourth year, Christmas came around and I gave her the spiel about how it was so commercial and phoney, and I didn't need the aggravation of putting up a tree then having to clean up the needles. This one ignored me and brought over a tree, and we had a great time putting it up. Super Bowl time she was still with me, and my buddies who didn't put up a tree were in the dumps that their lady had dumped them again. It might be invented, phoney and totally commercial, but the ladies eat it up. It is important to them. She also helped me clean the carpet. A good line from "Dead Poet's Society". What is the importance of poetry? "To woo women"
fltc Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 One advantage of being much older than many here is that I've had time to get over my bad relationships and enjoy my current one. Tonight I got my Valentine roses, we went out to dinner and I was rewarded by many passionate kisses and hugs, some from her, most from the dog! That's OK, I love him too!
Meatballsmom Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Most men don't get what romantic means or is. This one is a gimmee. All you have to do is go with the flow. Dinner, a card, flowers, candy, a stuffed animal, almost anythihng pink: any of these will score points in her need for romance.
What_Next Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Go with the flow? Really? A gimme? Someone, somewhere decides that on this particular day I must show my love by buying some ridiculous card or overpaying for flowers? Bulls__t... For the record I DO KNOW what romance is and I think my wife would agree, but I don't need anyone telling me which day I need show it on. Thank heavens the day is passed and it won't be thought of until next year. Yup I'm getting older and grumpier...
worlybear Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I HATE Valentine's Day. Was really dreading it as it was such a big deal when I was married. But yesterday morning my 9 yr old daughter gave me a card and had cut some heart shapes out of digestive biscuits to eat with my cup of tea. I was really touched by her thoughtfulness-even when she said"Well, I knew no-one else would get you one!"(LOL:laugh:) It was great!
debtman Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I went to the house on V-day because my stbx had a Dr. appt. and asked if I could come watch the kids. The only things I bought were little dollar store V-day baskets for the kids with stuffed bears and candy hearts. $3 each and it made the kids whole day...and mine. Best money I ever spent. The empty baskets sat right on the table, next to the roses that OM must have given my W. Two years ago I rented a hotel room with a jacuzzi, went there early, spread rose petals across the floor and bed, put a bottle of champagne on ice next to homemade chocolate covered strawberries, set up a sitter for the kids and went to the house and told my W to pack an overnight bag, I took her to dinner at our favorite restaurant and then to the hotel. It was a fabulous night, but it didn't compare in any way to the way I felt when my kids saw those cheap little bears and hearts... Valentine's day may be commercial and silly, but I can't knock anything that puts a smile on those little faces... Life is good.
Author worldgonewrong Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 debtman - I absolutely loved your post. You've got a great heart.
Yasuandio Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 debtman - I absolutely loved your post. You've got a great heart. Ditto!!!!!
GG2W Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 My V-day was great, due to similar attitudes expressed by a couple of the posters I've added two new married ladies to my harem in the past couple of days. Do it because it is important to them, don't ask why
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