cam16 Posted March 25, 2004 Posted March 25, 2004 I have been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years. Everything was going great and all of a sudden he started acting really weird. The past two years have been great and everything was perfect. We even decided to go off to college together. Here lately we have been arguing alot. He is always blamming it on me and being really rude. He goes out with his friends and doens't think twice about it. Everyone keeps saying that he is a jerk to girls and that I am way better for him but he has never been like this before. Everything was perfect for two years why the sudden change? He recently broke up with me and he didn't really justify why. He said that we needed time apart. And that he wanted us to become best friends again. What does that mean? he kept saying that he loves me and wants to be with me and the we are broken up but were not. He said that he wants to be friends and talk and try to work things out but he doesnt call. I am so confused! He is a totally different person. Is this common? I was on vacation for a week... and when I got back he broke things off with me. He had been partying all week and hardly ever called. I tend to wonder if he hooked up with another girl and is feeling guilty. But everyone says no and so does he. The first three days after he broke up with me I sat in my room and cried non stop. I didnt eat and I excluded my friends. I am now starting to think that maybe I should go out and have fun, but I am scared he will get mad and be done with me for good. When I told him that I was going to go out he wasn't happy but this is his doing. Do you think I should play hard to get? or do you think that will make him mad? but I can't be in this state forever! I want to get back together with him but he just keeps saying not right now. Is this normal? How can I get him to change his mind? *~*HEART BROKEN*~*
sportsloving Posted March 26, 2004 Posted March 26, 2004 I was on vacation for a week... and when I got back he broke things off with me. He had been partying all week and hardly ever called. I tend to wonder if he hooked up with another girl and is feeling guilty. But everyone says no and so does he. The first three days after he broke up with me I sat in my room and cried non stop. I didnt eat and I excluded my friends. I am now starting to think that maybe I should go out and have fun, but I am scared he will get mad and be done with me for good. When I told him that I was going to go out he wasn't happy but this is his doing. Do you think I should play hard to get? or do you think that will make him mad? but I can't be in this state forever! I want to get back together with him but he just keeps saying not right now. Is this normal? How can I get him to change his mind? Just gotta love it when a man says, I love you but I want to be friends with you. He was partying while you are on vacation, he breaks up, you think he found someone else, he says no, everyone says no .... but still you are not together as once was. You SHOULD go out and have fun! If you are broke up, you are broke up. He has no right to say no or to get upset. He gave up that right when you two were no more. Never play games ... it is demeaning to you and to him. Playing hard to get isn't an option.. it is a game. You also can not change another persons mind, if we could, well all hell would break out wouldn't it??? Besides, do you really want to be with someone whom you had to manipulate into being with you? If he says he doesn't want to get back together, take him at his word and move on. Go have fun, enjoy life. If it is meant to be, it will be... but no one said how long it would last~
overseas2004 Posted March 26, 2004 Posted March 26, 2004 I did the crying thing too and just stayed in for like a whole month. Now I say F*** that. If the guy really loves you and he wants to come back nothing you do (practically) will stop him. So just go out and forget about him. He sounds like he is immature and wants to party and forget about you. YOu should do the same. And just for fun make sure he sees you having a good time. Never let him see you cry. Good luck
Leikela Posted March 26, 2004 Posted March 26, 2004 Don't you see how he is controlling you? You express an interest to go out and have fun and he gets mad at that notion, so you decide to not go out because you're afraid he'll get mad and never go back to you. Seriously now, do you want to be with someone who is manipulating you like that? It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. Let him go and go on with your life. Go out and have fun. Who is he to intimidate you not to LIVE? If he truly loves you and is interested in a relationship, he'll return. However, it seems as though he wants to sow his wild oats which is understandable given his age. So just go with it and live your life. If you two were meant to be, you'll be, when the time is right.
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