Recent Break Up Guilt

[XEnglishRoseX]

Hi I'm new to this forum, thought I would join as I'm going through a break up at the moment and it would be nice to talk to others feeling the same.

To give who ever reads this a rough idea of whats happened, I finished with my ex boyfriend of 5 years (on and off) by text. Which I am feeling very guilty about now. We have been back together for 2.5 years after a few months split, I am finding being on my own really difficult to cope with. He hadn't been treating me well, he wasn't showing any regard for my feelings, he was being selfish and I didn't trust him. I still loved him though, and we got along well but over all this wasn't enough.

 

We had a big argument at the beginning of the week over valentines weekend, he wanted to go clubbing with his mates instead of taking me out, and with everything else that had been going on I was so angry with him. I text him saying I wanted a break, but after some consideration I realised that this was just what he wanted, he could go out for the weekend and come crawling back after full of apologies. I text him one night after I had reached breaking point, he'd made no attempt to contact me really after I suggested the break. I said that it was over, I couldn't cope any more and that it wasn't what I wanted but I had no choice as he had made no effort to work things out even though we had talked about things and he promised he would.

He didn't try calling me and didn't ask to meet up, just said he was sorry he couldn't change and that he didn't want me to be unhappy, and he hoped he could be the man I want one day once he's grown up. We continued texting and left it saying we would meet up at some point to give each other the things at our houses.

 

Since this I decided to remove my facebook for a while, and yesterday I stupidly decided to go back on and do some snooping and found he had put himself as single after a day even though he never goes on there, added an old girl friend I hate and started chatting to another girl online. I felt so heartbroken that he'd done this so soon! I sent him two angry texts which he never even replied too. I know he might have though that I'd deleted him and felt hurt by this so that might have been why but on the other hand he might just be moving on.

 

Today I feel really sad, I have blocked him off my facebook and any of his friends/family so I stop snooping and upsetting myself. I just want to text him and say I'm sorry for finishing with him by text, I really regret it, and I know it was a nasty things to do. He wasn't the worst boyfriend in the world and he didn't deserve that. I miss him so much now, although I know I have done the right thing.

 

What do people think, should I say sorry to help get rid of my guilt or leave it?

 

Thanks x

[annie_gordon_PI]

leave it, if you end up apologizing it prompts you to start talking, if he was a bad bf and you really don't to get back together, just let it be.

 

what's done is done. it'll just end up being a "i got broken up through text" story for him. No need to feel guilt...sure it would have been better if you'd done it in person, but its too late for that now. you have to just accept it and move on.