KingCrimson Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Met this girl online. We met up nearly 2 weeks ago for some food and drinks, had a great time, ended date with a kiss. Met up again mid last week, had a fun time, kissed again, got a post-date text from her. Hung out a third time this weekend, did a lot of making out and dancing. Told her she's welcome to crash at my place at the end of the night, she politely declined, we continued making out as I walked her back to her car. Things are going good. I definitely like this girl. A lot more than than other 2 girls I'm also dating. So if I had to pick, it'd be her. Now, I go out of town for a week Tuesday. She's also out of town this weekend, so we won't be able to see each other for at least another week. BUT tomorrow's Valentine's Day. We just hung out Saturday - is it too soon to hang out again? I never called her again today (Sunday) to make plans. I'm thinking of calling her up tomorrow, telling her I'd love to see her before I leave, then do something nice. I have a redeye flight at 6 AM Tuesday, so I can't stay out late or drink, and she has to wake up early for work. or just send a text saying Happy Valentines Day, and that I wish I could be with her but I'll call her when I get back? Oh yeah, I was originally supposed to be busy Monday, she knew about this, but she doesn't know that now I might be free for a bit Monday evening... I know I shouldn't be too worried, but just tell me what not to do to **** this up. Am I an idiot for not setting up something for V-day earlier?
Author KingCrimson Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Ok, I text her today at noon: "Hey happy valentines day! I shoiuld be free today evening actually. Need a hot date for tonight? Let's do something in [her part of town]" I get a reply 5 hours later saying: "Oh I wish you had said something yesterday! I'm busy unfortunately but happy Valentines and good luck tomorrow!" Me: "Thanks. Yea I didn't know what my schedule was until today morning, so I didn't want to have to flake. Talk to you when I'm back! When do you go" Her: "Im leaving Friday and be back Monday" Now I realize I probably might've messed up by not setting something for Valentines Day in advance? It's a big deal for girls right? But now she's busy, has another date maybe? Either way I text back about 30 min later, realizing my mistake: "Cool, have fun! Sorry for not setting something up for Vday yesterday! I feel bad, I'll have to make it up to you later!" Am I just overthinking?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Ok, I text her today at noon: "Hey happy valentines day! I shoiuld be free today evening actually. Need a hot date for tonight? Let's do something in [her part of town]" I get a reply 5 hours later saying: "Oh I wish you had said something yesterday! I'm busy unfortunately but happy Valentines and good luck tomorrow!" Me: "Thanks. Yea I didn't know what my schedule was until today morning, so I didn't want to have to flake. Talk to you when I'm back! When do you go" Her: "Im leaving Friday and be back Monday" Now I realize I probably might've messed up by not setting something for Valentines Day in advance? It's a big deal for girls right? But now she's busy, has another date maybe? Either way I text back about 30 min later, realizing my mistake: "Cool, have fun! Sorry for not setting something up for Vday yesterday! I feel bad, I'll have to make it up to you later!" Am I just overthinking? You're overthinking. Since the two of you are not exclusive, it's probable for you to assume that she has other options just as you had when you were dating other people. Actually, your circumstances just correlates with another thread on here about people going on trips after the first date. If she was the one writing on here about you, I'd advise her to be wary about your interests in her AFTER you come back. In any case, brief and short text messages should be sent to her during your trip or immeiately right after to give her clear signals that you're interested in her. Please do not wait a week to get back to her like that other thread on her.
Author KingCrimson Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) Ok, I left out one detail. I'm not exactly out of town on a vacation or anything for a week. I'm actually leaving for surgery. So I have NO idea how long I'll be out of comission for, no idea how long until I'm off prescription pain meds, no idea how comfortable driving and walking will be. So, I'm leaving to stay with my parents. That's my "vacation". The reason I never set something up for V-day was because the surgery(on the 15th) could have been anywhere from 6 AM till 2 PM. They don't tell you the exact time until 24 hours before. If it was early in the morning, I was going to drive the 2 hours away to my parents place(i got my surgery done at a hospital near them) and sleep early the night before - you also can't eat or drink anything 12 hours prior. When I foudn out the morning of the 14th that it was in the afternoon, thats when I sent her the text in my last post. But from her reply, and the fact that most ladies go gaga for Valentines day, am I an idiot for not setting something up anyways or calling her Sunday, and instead calling her the day-off and trying something last-minute? I don't want to give her the impression she was my "backup" for Valentines day!!! after our date and makeout session Sat though, she's said for me to let her know how the surgery went, to call her when I recovered, etc... but maybe she was still hoping for a call the next day or to do something on Valentines? She on the other hand, IS on vacation this long weekend. Do I call her later this week(Wed, Thursday, hopped up on Vicodin...) and set something up for next week (assuming I can walk...), or call her after next Monday when she's back and I should be recovered and off the nasty pain meds? Edited February 15, 2011 by KingCrimson
sydneysider1978 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Does she know that you're going away for surgery? It sounds like things are going well! Although I think ignoring V day until midday of the day was a mistake, I would have been a bit offended by that. I wouldn't have expected a big fancy date or present at this stage in a relationship but at least a mention! You have a very understandable reason, if she knows about it. Two things... it sounds like texts aren't really working. How about giving her a call? You can have a nice long chat and get a sense of where you are with her. If she's into you it will build on your connection. Next, I think multi-dating is a good to just get to know a few people. Once you like one more that that others, STOP immediately! It's risky but if you feel a connection with someone, stop pussy-footing around and go for it, whole-heartedly.
Author KingCrimson Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 (edited) oh, she knows about my operation. I'd told her before(when we were figuring out 3rd date), that Monday may not be good for me since I'd need to leave early, finish up loose ends at work, not eat/drink, etc.. so we decided to meet up Sat night instead. And after our date Sat, she's said to let her know how my thing went after Tuesday. We never mentioned Monday or Valentines Day. Well here I am... my operation went smoothly actually. Chilling 2 hours away at my parents house, on some Vicodin. May go back home Wed or Thursday. Give her a call tomorrow? Lol, multi-dating. I already was doing that. Went on two first dates around same time as this chick, and talking to another online as well. But for some reason I'm just more into this girl... For all you know the other two girls are probably on here posting about why I'm so quiet with them! Edited February 16, 2011 by KingCrimson
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