fiat500 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 It will be three months tomorrow since I was dumped. And I still feel like everything was my fault. Every night I have varying dreams of him dumping me in a new creative way. The other night I dreamt I was skydiving and he dropped in out of nowhere to tell me it wasn't working out and his feelings had changed. It would be f'in funny if my heart wasn't so broken. It's so pathetic. I make mistakes. I am not a perfect person. But I have not and will not ever cheat on someone. I feel like he blamed me for the failure of the relationship. And he never gave me a chance to correct anything I did wrong. I tear up on most nights before going to sleep. It sucks.
alimpo83 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I still have nightmares too, and it's been almost four months. It's normal, you can't control them, but it sucks yes. Hopefully, it will fade away.
IfiKnewThen Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 i dont know anything..and i am sure you already know this..but the mind and emotions, they say , do try to release and relieve themselves of stress through dreams. i think our brains are on search mode when we are tormented or concerned about something trying to make sense of it all or find answers, and we when dream, the scan is still on so to speak. deep stress and trauma can even be or mimic PSTD. it's kinda interesting that you were sky diving in the dream..kinda "free falling" and he even interrupts that process, with his good news . of course i am being facetious there . (hope i spelled that right) try to be good to yourself. we all need to do that, when trying to heal
Author fiat500 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 So your mind can mimic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder over getting dumped? That would be a new kind of pathetic for me. I guess since I was so in love with him and then getting thrown to the curb since he "lost feelings" for me has really done a number on my ego and self confidence. I am now either afraid I will be alone forever or afraid if I ever fall in love again the person will just abandon me. I am going through hell right now. Yeah. I was really bummed that he interrupted my dream sequence skydive. I was having a good time too.
stopthemadness Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Its soo normal to dream of our exs. I started to see a therapist after this last time I got dumped by my ex. And ive learned alot! Together weve worked through alot of issues ive had of why ive been putting up with this off and on for eight years. My ex is dating smone else he met from his past off facebook and like my therapist says I have no reason to believe that they arent happy and will be together for a while. Yea its hard! I had all the not eating, not sleeping and was sad most of the time. But am going on 7 months now and am SOO much better now. I say all that to say this. It does get better. Their memory starts to fade away in your mind and life starts to go on with out them. Its like your brain just cant process this breakup anymore! Find things to keep your self busy. Read a book, Go for walks, get into wacthing new movies. Get closer to friends and family that you miss having in your lives. I also started going back to church and working on my relationship with God. Yea this whole thing sucks. And am sorry we all have to go through it. But we will be fine in the end. Hang in there..keep posting it helps...good luck
Leandro Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 It's been like over 6 months for me and I still have nightmares. Just not as bad or as much.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 she invades my dreams a few nights a week. I can handle that, its my stomach killing me today that I really hate.
IfiKnewThen Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 yes, maybe not full blown pstd but pretty darn close. during my moms fight with cancer..i was with her everyday and it was a highly stressful time in my life. afterwards i had nightmares about her (with her cancer and fighting it..and my missing her) for MONTHS. my body would even involuntarily spasm/jerk in bed while sleeping (i never did this before). a few times i woke up to hearing myself calling out her name. well...saying "mom". i know death can be hard and traumatic, depending whats going on and the circumstances. i was at odds with my sister at this time too and the stress was awful. but believe it or not all through her illness i handled things calmly and like a champ. i wanted to be strong for her. this all kinda hit me afterwards. when she was gone a month or two already. but yes, certain levels of stress can mimic PSTD..(have similar symptoms). recurring nightmares being one of them. it doesn't matter if it was a break up. cumulative stress can do this. it all went away in a few months, by itself. (the nightmares and sleepless nights)i had to take good care of myself and change my thinking pattern and remind myself i did all i could for her. i think it is all normal too, especially when something weighs heavy on the subconscious and conscious mind and yes...was is/life changing/altering and traumatic. its not that the mind mimics it..its the symptoms can. but again its natural to have these emotional (actual stress relieving dreams) methinks. if it keeps up of course then i would talk to someone. yikes i hope i didnt sound gloomy there. and it helps to have a sense of humor in life for sure. yeah, how dare he interrupt that nice sky diving anyway
flitzanu Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 if it's any consolation, it's been nearly 6 months for me, and i dream of her (my ex) every single night in some fashion. it's ridiculous.
radiodarcy Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 i have weird dreams about his ex. which is weird because i've never even met her - - although i've heard plenty about her...
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I still have nightmares about my late husband (he passed away 8 months ago). On bad days, I sleep in front of the TV and keep it on all night. Sometimes I'll put in a "comfort movie" and keep it replaying over and over. When I start to nightmare, I wake up just enough to hear the TV and that seems to help pull me out of it.
ScarletMeshell Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 I too have nightmares. I sleep about 4 to 5 hours a night, tired all the time.
IfiKnewThen Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 all this talk about dreams and i ended up dreaming about him last night. sighs:(
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