tiger20 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 If you ask a woman out & during the date she offers to pay her way then you're dead. She has low interest level & doesn't want to feel indebted to you. But go ahead & pay for the whole bill & decline her offer & tell her that you have no use for her money. After the end of the date you go home & throw her number away. NEXT!
Star Gazer Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Wrong. If she offers to pay, but you insist on paying and she accepts, she was just being polite. If she insists on paying - THAT's when you're dead in the water.
Author tiger20 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Wrong. If she offers to pay, but you insist on paying and she accepts, she was just being polite. If she insists on paying - THAT's when you're dead in the water. Well it also depends on how many dates they've been on together. If she offers to pay on the 1st date red flag. If after 4,5,6 dates she offers to pay then it's a yellow flag if there are no other red flags. If the date was my idea then I should be paying all of it. I wouldn't expect her to offer.
Hopeful30 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Not true. I've been on dates when it was a waste of time and I got bored and wasn't interested. I'm not paying for that!! The guy can pay for the aweful date, I'd rather save my money for something useful. Besides, the guy should always pay.
Author tiger20 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 The guy should always pay if the date was his idea. If she asked him out then she should pay it all.
sydneysider1978 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Good grief no! On the first couple of dates I would always go dutch, no matter what my interest level. After it's a more of an established relationship, I usually take turns to pay for things. I earn as much as most men my age. When I go out on a date, all I want is your company and to find out if I like you. Of course it's nice to treat someone when you're in a relationship but I'm after a partner not a sponsor.
Kaplan Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 The guy can pay for the aweful date I think you meant awful date. An "aweful date" is a date that leaves you filled with awe. I think it's silly that people have such absolute ideas about who should pay. It used to be a convention that men would pay (I think this was left over from a time when women weren't allowed to have money.) These days it's no longer a convention.
fishtaco Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 What's worse is the woman that's leading you on AND letting you pay for dinner. Anyway, the only time you are out of the game is when communication breaks down. Basically, she flakes, she won't return your call... etc. Even then that's just a "pretty good indication" as opposed to an absolute prediction. I would rank paying for dinner way below the break down of communication as an indicator of lack of interest. But that's a pretty good way to get a "no" as an answer... a free meal. Only if I get a free meal every time I get turned down.
Author tiger20 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 What's worse is the woman that's leading you on AND letting you pay for dinner. Anyway, the only time you are out of the game is when communication breaks down. Basically, she flakes, she won't return your call... etc. Even then that's just a "pretty good indication" as opposed to an absolute prediction. I would rank paying for dinner way below the break down of communication as an indicator of lack of interest. But that's a pretty good way to get a "no" as an answer... a free meal. Only if I get a free meal every time I get turned down. That's why you shouldn't take her on a dinner date the first date. Take her someplace cheap like a coffee shop or cafe or ice cream shop. Once you get past the first few dates & you both like each other then go ahead & take her on an expensive dinner date. But I don't mind spending 12-13 bucks on coffee & donuts the first date even if it turns out she doesn't like me.
mo mo Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 hows the program coming along?? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t264799/ we want a journal
East7 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 If you ask a woman out & during the date she offers to pay her way then you're dead. She has low interest level & doesn't want to feel indebted to you. But go ahead & pay for the whole bill & decline her offer & tell her that you have no use for her money. After the end of the date you go home & throw her number away. NEXT! I think in this case there is a cultural/mindset thing, it has nothing to do with interest level. It sounds like in USA guys are always (or often) expected to pay. In Western Europe it is pretty normal that women offer to pay even when they are interested. On the other side, eastern Europe girls are often gold diggers, they are sooo pretty but you better have a thick wallet
oaks Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 If you ask a woman out & during the date she offers to pay her way then you're dead. She has low interest level & doesn't want to feel indebted to you. I'm sure this is sometimes true, but I think it's far from the universal truth you're suggesting. I'm not even sure that "not wanting to feel indebted" relates to "low interest level" or even that "paying her way" relates to "not wanting to feel indebted". Perhaps this is cultural, or age-specific?
musemaj11 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Why do you keep opening threads with random and rather dumb advices, Tiger?
zengirl Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Wrong. If she offers to pay, but you insist on paying and she accepts, she was just being polite. If she insists on paying - THAT's when you're dead in the water. Correct. I always offer to pay my way, especially when I like a guy, on the 1st date. The guy always tells me not to. I then insist if I know there will be 2nd date because I'm not into him.
musemaj11 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Good grief no! On the first couple of dates I would always go dutch, no matter what my interest level. After it's a more of an established relationship, I usually take turns to pay for things. I earn as much as most men my age. When I go out on a date, all I want is your company and to find out if I like you. Of course it's nice to treat someone when you're in a relationship but I'm after a partner not a sponsor. I bet u r not american. Lol
carhill Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 OP, just do what you do. Whether you're 'dead in the water' with a potential date is completely outside of your control. Kill a few yourself and you'll understand this better. Start this week
GivenUp0083 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I guess my girlfriend of 3 months has no interest level in me since she offered to pay on the first 3 dates....good thing I didn't follow THIS advice from this repeat offender of copywright infringement laws otherwise I'd still be single.
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