Scarlett513 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Let me preface this by saying I don't expect much if a guy on Valentine's Day... It really is the thought that counts. I don't need anything expensive, but a little effort goes a long way. I don't know if I'm being ridiculous but I'm sort of disappointed by how my bf handled our first vday together. First of all, he never asked me if I wanted to hang out on the actual day. We live about 50 minutes apart so while it's not the easiest thing to see one another on a weeknight, it's certainly possible. Secondly, he decided to cook me dinner Saturday night, bc it was convenient for his diet schedule (he follows a certain diet in accordance with which days he works out). The dinner was made up of pre-made food and there was no attempt to make things romantic. Today he gives me a gift-something that seemed so random I can't believe he really actually picked it out for me- that wasn't wrapped by him but just in the little bag it came in from the store. He also forgot to give me a card. Please keep in mind I gave him a very thoughtful gift, and that for his birthday when I cooked him a meal it was elaborate and special - I wanted him to know I made an effort for him. I don't know what's up, or if I should feel that way. On top of this he chose going to a bar over seeing me the other night and just left my house even though he knew he was invited to spend the night. Normally I would chalk this up as he's over it and cut him loose but he really doesn't seem like that kind of guy. I'm upset and disappointed and wondering if I should end this now...
january2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Did you ask him if he wanted to hang out on the actual day? You say it's the thought that counts, but to be honest I think he has been thoughtful, in his own way. How would you have preferred that he handled Valentine's Day? What would have made you feel more loved and wanted? If you're so upset and disappointed and considering ending this - I'm wondering if there's more to the story than meets the eye. All the things you've mentioned so far don't suggest to me that he was completely out of order and that you should split up with him. He might not have given you exactly what you wanted and hoped for but that could just be down to miscommunication and different styles of expressing love and caring. Not necessarily huge dealbreakers, in my opinion.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 If he's your bf and he's not spending Valentine's Day with you, who IS he spending it with? That's the first thing that came into my mind.
Jannah Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 See, this is one of the reasons women should not go overboard with cooking/planning elaborate meals, planning special romantic evenings and getting their men heartfelt gifts. Next time, just throw him a slab of beef and let him chow down.
Nexus One Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) See, this is one of the reasons women should not go overboard with cooking/planning elaborate meals, planning special romantic evenings and getting their men heartfelt gifts. Next time, just throw him a slab of beef and let him chow down. Whether you're joking or not, as a guy I agree. If you put too much effort into it the guy might even feel as if it's too forced. *Cave man grunt* We not like forced, we men! Edited February 14, 2011 by Nexus One
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