tigressA Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I notice stature first. I have a thing for shorter guys (5'5"-5'9") with a slight build. I don't mind tall guys but they can't be big; I like them lanky. If a guy seemed nervous or shy, I'd find it a turn-on. It's really cute! I don't mind being the one to approach, and in many cases of that the guy ends up leading because then he knows I'm interested.
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Can women tell if a guy is lacking confidence by his eyes? I have dark brown eyes. Not sure if you can tell much when looking at them, unless my facial expression is hinting at something. Generally I walk around with an emotionless face. But when I'm looking at a beautiful woman, it switches to sort of a curious look.Here's an interesting study about dominance and the color of a man's eyes: http://bps-research-digest.blogspot.com/2010/05/men-with-brown-eyes-are-perceived-as.html
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) Can women tell if a guy is lacking confidence by his eyes? Yes sometimes. I have dark brown eyes.The color has nothing to do with the emotion and vibe and anything else radiating from them... dark brown eyes are beautiful, same as any other color eyes, but the color is not what shows confidence. It's a spark that does, a spark that's hard to explain. People of all different color eyes can have confidence, friendliness, fear, sadness, insecurity, anger, hate, love, adoration,... shine through them. Not sure if you can tell much when looking at them, unless my facial expression is hinting at something. Generally I walk around with an emotionless face.I'd advise you to not be so guarded maybe? The guys I'm most attracted to are not the ones who do not show emotion, but rather show they are enjoying life, and that is transmitted even through the eyes. (Guys with an emotionless face can enjoy life too of course, but there's something awesome about seeing people with a sparkle in their eyes!) But when I'm looking at a beautiful woman, it switches to sort of a curious look.Add a caring I want to get to know you look in there too... how you can do that is by thinking... I want to get to know her. She's important to me and I want to see what wonderful characteristics are encompassed in that beautiful shell of a body, something like that lol. ) I'm sounding weird now lol, but basically, if you show beautiful women that you want to get to know them for who they are on the inside, not just the outside, many really appreciate that, because for many beautiful women, sometimes they don't feel like guys try to appreciate their feelings and thoughts and intellect and what's important to them other then their looks. Edited February 14, 2011 by elaina
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 How does one give off the sparkle in their eyes? Should I be skipping around acting jolly? Lmao.
Emilia Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Can you tell the level of a guy's..."want"..by his gaze? Someone told me women can sense how much a man want's them. As if they're some kind of Jedi Master. yes my last ex told me he 'used' his eyes, ie he knew how to project desire with his gaze. he had huge brown eyes, very bright with thick eyelashes. when we met he just looked at me and I could tell exactly what he was thinking
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 How does one give off the sparkle in their eyes? Should I be skipping around acting jolly? Lmao.Think of something sexual and fun as you look into their eyes. Keep it light though - not heavy porno. Think about how fun the chase/game is going to be. Put a little predator in there to spice it up. Don't overdo it - you don't want to give out stalker vibes. Focus on the fun aspects, the challenge and the end game. Let her see that you want her but give it an edge. Throw all the heat and fun into your eyes, but keep the convo light and flirtatious. Mix it up and keep her guessing.
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 How does one give off the sparkle in their eyes? Should I be skipping around acting jolly? Lmao. Ha ha ha lol Sparkles in the eyes come from what you're thinking of that you allow your eyes to transmit to others. Like for example, when a kid is being mischievous and has this little sparkle in their eyes cause he/she knows he/she is so cute and are loved and precious... that's their thoughts and emotions shining through their eyes. Sometimes adults are much more guarded than kids who feel loved and do not let their emotions from their thoughts show through their eyes. Maybe cause they're afraid of how others will view them? Most adults with sparkles in their eyes know they are darn special and awesome and don't care who know it. It's sad when kids and adults grow to hide their feelings.. the most painful is when a kid has pain showing through the eyes... pain of rejection, or hurt or are afraid or scared of abandonment or abuse... I have seen kids who I've worked with who have been abused have pain showing through their eyes and it kills me. Many adults do not let that pain show, but many kids still do not know how to mask their eyes until they eventually learn. It is really sad all this, but yeah about sparkles in the eye... it comes from loving yourself and being comfortable with yourself and caring for others and having fun and not guarding your emotions from radiating through your eyes.
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 This is some good stuff, good stuff. Priceless information. Going to employ all of these tactics....at Publix lmao.
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 This is some good stuff, good stuff. Priceless information. Going to employ all of these tactics....at Publix lmao.Please don't use the cucumber approach.
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 It's sad when kids and adults grow to hide their feelings.. the most painful is when a kid has pain showing through the eyes... pain of rejection, or hurt or are afraid or scared of abandonment or abuse... I have seen kids who I've worked with who have been abused have pain showing through their eyes and it kills me. Many adults do not let that pain show, but many kids still do not know how to mask their eyes until they eventually learn. It is really sad all this, Just wanted to clarify... it's not sad that kids or adults show pain that they have experienced. What's really sad is that they have experienced pain and hurt to being with. It's so awesome when people who have experienced hurt heal or are in the healing process!!! There is the saying I forget exactly how it goes, that the eyes are the window (or mirror?) to the soul. People do learn how to curtain that window, but sparkles in the eye are when the emotions from people's thoughts shine through the windows of their eyes.
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Think of something sexual and fun as you look into their eyes. Keep it light though - not heavy porno. Think about how fun the chase/game is going to be. Put a little predator in there to spice it up. Don't overdo it - you don't want to give out stalker vibes. Focus on the fun aspects, the challenge and the end game. Let her see that you want her but give it an edge. Throw all the heat and fun into your eyes, but keep the convo light and flirtatious. Mix it up and keep her guessing. Great advice!!! When I see a man with the "I want you" look in his eyes, and he is fun and teasy and flirty (but not stalky/creepy or just lusty!), it makes me melt... my heart rate goes up and... yeah takes my breath away!!!
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 yes my last ex told me he 'used' his eyes, ie he knew how to project desire with his gaze. he had huge brown eyes, very bright with thick eyelashes. when we met he just looked at me and I could tell exactly what he was thinking Men should never underestimate the power in their eyes. (Women too!)
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 So if I'm talking to a woman, but I'm thinking of her in some hot lingirie, and me cupping her ass in my hands, that's the kind of spark you're talking about? lol...
Emilia Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 So if I'm talking to a woman, but I'm thinking of her in some hot lingirie, and me cupping her ass in my hands, that's the kind of spark you're talking about? lol... yes but don't look her up and down. it's a look, not a gawp
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 yes but don't look her up and down. it's a look, not a gawp Well I'd only be thinking it, while smiling and looking her in the eye.
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) yes but don't look her up and down. it's a look, not a gawp Yep! You can look her up and down from across the room, but it's annoying if done by a stranger while face to face. However, when you've spent time with her and she likes you and you see her in a new dress/outfit/in her birthday suit, then by all means look her up and down appreciatively while talking with her!!! And never ever look another woman up and down while with your girl (unless she truly doesn't mind it)!!! Many girls (not all) see this as blatant disrespect and it hurts us. (and yes we know there are other gorgeous girls in the world...we're acutely aware of that fact. Don't rub it in!) Remember Rihanna's song "Only Girl" "...Want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world Like I'm the only one that you'll ever love..." She tells it like it is! Edited February 14, 2011 by elaina
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Yep! You can look her up and down from across the room, but it's annoying if done by a stranger while face to face. However, when you've spent time with her and she likes you and you see her in a new dress/outfit/in her birthday suit, then by all means look her up and down appreciatively while talking with her!!! And never ever look another woman up and down while with your girl (unless she truly doesn't mind it)!!! Many girls (not all) see this as blatant disrespect and it hurts us. (and yes we know there are other gorgeous girls in the world...we're acutely aware of that fact. Don't rub it in!) Remember Rihanna's song "Only Girl" "...Want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world Like I'm the only one that you'll ever love..." She tells it like it is! If I'm doing this for a woman, she better be reciprocating that feeling.
elaina Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) If I'm doing this for a woman, she better be reciprocating that feeling. Makes perfect sense! Now I have that song in my head lol... I love that song! Do guys then want... "want you to make me feel like I'm the only man in the world... the only one you'll ever love..."? Don't men think that's sort of clingy? Men are so mysterious and hard to understand sometimes! Edited February 14, 2011 by elaina
Duckduckgoose Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Eh... they tell me "When Irish eyes are smiling" That "sparkle" in the eye, I always seems to have it... but with me its more of a mischievous thing.
denise_xo Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Ladies! When walking about, and you see an attractive guy, what's the first thing you notice about him, that stirs your interest and lust? This goes for eye contact, smiles, etc..you get my point. Presence. [ten characters]
JohnnyCage Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 What's a seasoned watch? Such a tasty detail, I need to know specifics! Something like this http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/81KtKSWyXOS._AA1500_.jpg
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Makes perfect sense! Now I have that song in my head lol... I love that song! Do guys then want... "want you to make me feel like I'm the only man in the world... the only one you'll ever love..."? Don't men think that's sort of clingy? Men are so mysterious and hard to understand sometimes! That's not clingy at all. Men feel this way to, we just don't express it lol.
Recommended Posts