isitme1 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Kind of weird how you meet people... I met this nurse when my mom was put in the hospital in the beginning of 2010...unfortunately she continues to go back in on a constant basis due to her health...She is ill but is very strong ad hasnt had any close calls...all of her stays have been for minor (for her) conditions...in all this you tend to meet new people from other families and nurse staff...there is a particular nurse who I befriended last year while my mom was in the hospital...of course my focus is on my mom...but when I am there all day and most of the night for weeks at a time you get to know people...This particular nurse happens to know some of my friends that went to the same HS as she did and we are actually same members at a boathouse that we have seen each other at a few times...well last year she had mentioned that she did have a boyfriend through conversation...which I didnt think anything of it...well my mom has traveled to a different state to be w/her grand-kids and came back last year during the holidays...wel at the beginning of this new year she had to go back in the hospital for observation...well this particular nurse was still working there and we started off our conversations again like we just saw each other...well the nurses get different patients every night..but i think she requested my mom because we had for the whole time my mom was there (8 days)...my mo was in suite sort of speak and one evening the nurse came in to check on my mom (she was asleep) and we talked for about 30 minutes about stuff we particapte in running & other sporting events....we have had some serious snow weather here and I asked her the nights she had to go to work if she drove in ok...she tells me her dad drove her in..he did that for for 3 days and fixed her busted broken pipes...these type of things she told gave me a hunch that she no longer had a boyfriend...the night before my mom was released we got her a thank you card w/a starbucks gift card (its what I noticed what she drank) for taking good care of my mom...I called before her shift ending to check on my mom and to see if she got the card..she was very delighted t say the least...well i went for it...i invited her to my little bday gathering i was having w/some friends the following week...well my wonderful mom gave her the heads up on it because she knew when my bday was...she said she felt a little weird about it becaus eof her company policy about nurse/patient relationships...then she busts out "well you are not my patient so I may stop by!" well i was so happy to hear that..that also gave me the sense that there was no boyfriend in the picture because she had the opportunity to say she did...fast forward to last night (bday gathering)...I didnt call her at work all week...I never asked her for her number at all...I told her to get my number of the board in my moms room to let me know if she would come to it...she did not come to the party (at a restaurant) but she did text me a happy bday and apologized for not coming but she was in dallas w/her team to practice for an event...now I know she didnt lie about it because earlier that day I was at an expo where I was told a group of people went to dallas to train...she is very good at what she does and a very nice person...I dont think she would lie...but she did text me..we went back & forth on a few texts and I was very generic and I basically thanked for the bday wishes and left it that...I didnt ask her out even though I wanted to...I dont want to mess anyting up w/her or make her feel uncomfortable if my mom would have to go back to the hospital again in the future...and unfortunately w/my moms condition it will happen...so I am at an impasse...I dont know if should text her to say hello? do I wait for her? I just came out of a relationship where the girl broke up w/me and I was devastated...I do feel stronger coming out of it..but this a very cool woman I like to know...even if I end up in the friend zone...I respect what she does and I dont want to mess up anything where she wouldnt watch my mom....my mom loves her and appreciates her care for her...sorry for this long novel but I wanted to be clear...any suggestions???
Nexus One Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 looking for suggestion Suggestion 1: Use paragraphs, so that people will enjoy reading your post. Suggestion 2: Don't overuse punctuation. (...)
clueless24 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 well...perhaps give it a few days and text to see if she wants to hang out...just the 2 of you, not with friends or a party. I would be really uneasy about showing up at a party where you have a bunch of your friends and I don't know anyone when you 2 haven't had an official date yet. good luck.
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