bluestbird Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 So basically i finally got to go out w/this guy who works at a bar that I frequent. We had 3 really great dates, took us awhile to plan a fourth since he's a single dad who works nights. Well he had to cancel the 4th a few days beforehand for legit reasons but since I'm being insecure and irrational I sort of took it as him blowing me off and made him feel guilty. He assured me he wasn't and we talked a few times after. Well a few days later his cell phone runs out of mins and he doesn't have the $$ to refill it (he's poor) for 4 or 5 days. I don't know any of this and have texted him a few times and not gotten a response, so by day 4 I'm thinking fine the dude just disappeared on me, screw him. But I can't just leave it at that, i have to send a final text basically saying he was a douche who used me. mature i know. A few days later I get a long winded text from him explaining what happened and that he hadn't used me, he's just had more urgent things to attend to besides dating but he tells me I'm a pretty harsh critic and he'll see me around. Well I of course feel like a huge a**hole and call him and apologize. He says I'm not an a**hole it was just a misunderstanding and he asks if i want to meet up on thursday to talk more since he was w/his son today. Well thursday rolls around and we had made plans for dinner but neither of us is feeling well so I say we can just do it another time. he says he would like that but didn't want me to think he was blowing me off. So then we are trying to figure out when next to go out and it will be awhile so he goes into this spiel about how his schedule is part of the reason he hasn't been dating and he probably shouldn't be and that he felt like a jerk saying it but the whole douche text was sort of a turn off. The conversation basically ends with me asking him if he just wants to take a break for now and start over next month when he has the time. he says he doesn't think we should, that it's not a good idea, at least for him. Dating is the last thing that should be on his mind right now. I know i messed up being needy and insecure and making him feel guilty about not being able to hang out, is there anything i can do at this point to rectify the situation? Should I just leave him alone for awhile and make contact again later?
lenny Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I don't think there's anything you can do. I would just back off. Maybe after some time has past he'll decide to give you another try.
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