i cant control my thoughts about my girlfriends past

[matthew555]

first of all im sorry for my english

 

i want to share with you (and hear your advice) what has been happening with me dealing with my girlfriends past.

i have been with my girlfriend for 10 months now.

it may sound strange, but when we met, i wasn`t a virgin and she was (we are both 21).. but i know she had phisical contact with some other man (more than just kissing) and it drives me nuts..

the point that hurts me the most is that most of them were one nighters (taken out from clubs or so),, so that makes me think that my girl was easy (i dont know if thats how you call it) even if she didn`t have real sex...

i know it sounds irrational, knowing that i wasn`t a virgin and she was,, but the fact that other man did almost the same that i do with her, and it only took them 1 nights makes me feel really bad, it makes me thing she was a slut (sort of)..

everything reminds me of that, EVERYTHING,,, even things that are not even related..

thinking of other man touching her makes me sick,, even if its on the past

i feel really depressed every time i think of that, and sometimes i hurt her feelings,,, and its causing a lot of troubles between us

i hurt her because i always want to know every detail, and when i hear them, i make her feel very bad..

if heard and read a lot of advice, but even if i understand that she is who she is right know because of that past,, i cant get over it..

please let me know what you think,, i would apreciate it a lot

[matthew555]

yes man we have had sex,, thats what makes it more irrational, but stil i cant control it,,,, thanks for the advice

[Duckduckgoose]

She isn't upset that you have had sex with another woman is she? Is she holding it against you, the things you did in your past?

 

Just let her past go. She is with you now, and unless she cheats on you or starts flirting with other men just be glad you have her now and she doesn't do one night stands anymore.

[denise_xo]

Let her go so she can find someone who appreciates her, and you can find an 'untouched', pure virgin, which seems to be what you need.

[Joe Normal]

Get laid more (either with your gf, or with other chicks after you break up), then you'll stop caring so much about 'purity'.

[StoneCold]

get over yourself