stopthemadness Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) So Ive been giving some thought about coping after a breakup on Valentines Day. Heres what Ive come up with. In stead of us sitting around thinking how sad or what ever. Why dont we use this day as a day of acceptance. Because really thats what day it is right. We are no longer together, you are dating smone else and more then likely are exchanging Valentines Day gifts with them this year instead of us. OMG we are going on to live our lives and still go on from day to day without you. And we still laugh and enjoy our lives even if we wont be with you. Yea, from time to time we think of you. But not like it was before when you consumed almost every thought. We spend more of our time now day dreaming of places and things that dont have anything to do with you. We try really hard to go out of our way NOT to say your name, and if we must refer to you. We call you "my ex" or say" in the past". By this point are friends and family understand that you are not a subject to be brought up anymore. If we feel we must talk about you too vent we will bring you up. But know that we try really hard NOT to think about you. When we think of our furture you are no longer in it. And guess what? THATS OK. Sure from time to time our minds will wonder and will we miss what we had, or what we thought we had. But know that by now sometimes when we look back at the relatoinship . Parts of it dont seem real. And maybe they werent? Maybe we remember them better then they actually were. At this point were starting think that you werent as great a catch as we originally thought you were. And were starting to remember more and more what jerk you really are! Things come to mind like, when I was sick and you acted like you didnt care. Or when I wanted to talk or was sad you didnt care. Those things are starting to seem very real to us now. I hear the healing process is sadness,fear,anger, sorrow,and then acceptance. Will in my opinion, Valentines Day just gave us all a violent shove into acceptance. So if we do think of you on V/D we will send you Love and Light and forget about it! But know that we will try very hard all day long NOT to think of you!! So to All the Love Shackers!! Have a great day and remermber all day 2morrow!! ITS JUST MONDAY (Smile) Feel free to post your coping thoughts too...... Edited February 14, 2011 by stopthemadness
GreenPolicy Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I'm going to go to the gym and call my mom.
Leviia Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I did thislast year and I am doing it again tomorrow ... I am going to the VA hospital here and handing out Valentine's to all the vets there. They love it, it makes me feel good and I don't feel so miserable about being alone
IfiKnewThen Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 to all of those who know its a done deal. completely over. this is NOT their day. think of and take care of others who love you, meaning the people who are there for you now in your life. your heart is beating. this is YOUR day to LOVE yourself. and its just another manic monday. and its time to say....this is NOT your day...not a thought will you be worth today. this is sacred to my heart. and i will take care of my heart..and leave ANY thought of you, far far away. poof. goodbye.
Ajax Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I'm student teaching now and bought flowers for my students. I used to buy them for my ex, but she won't be getting any from me this time. Hope the kids appreciate them.
Heatemyheart89 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Ive just been shopping now I'm going to the gym with my friend
sedgwick Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Four years ago today was one of the best days of my life. But I'm not heartbroken about it anymore. I still love him, but our relationship is in the past, and I'll be okay. I'm working on setting up a book tour for myself, and it's going well. Just got another reading in a town I've never been to, so that's exciting. Really, it's just another day now. I've been out of the game for so long I don't even consider romantic holidays as anything that will ever be a part of my life again, but I'll live. There's other stuff to do.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 am I the only one who really doesn't care about this? just another day...
Leandro Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Done with 1 test. Now I'm applying for 3 internships at Shell.
cj2 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 am I the only one who really doesn't care about this? just another day... With you on that one. There are another 364 days in the year to show your love to people in your life and many more original and meaningful ways than by buying them some tacky card/flowers/chocolates!
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I lost my husband to a car accident last year. This is my first Valentine's Day without him. I'm dating someone now and things are going well. But today is still very sad for me. A new relationship can't take the place of 18 years of happy marriage.
Gironbachs Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 "They say time makes things easier, but only time will tell. You said we'd go the distance , but I guess it's just as well... You're blossoming all over while I wither on the line, I just called to tell you that I hope you're doing fine." Be My Valentine
Author stopthemadness Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) Wow Gironbachs, thats really sad.. Cheer the heck up.....It made me sad when i read it.Remember Jesus loves.. Edited February 15, 2011 by stopthemadness
comethemorning Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 am I the only one who really doesn't care about this? just another day... Count me in as another one who doesn't celebrate VD {day...}. Was married for 17 years and after the first few - meh. Either love me 365 or KMA. Just saying. I refuse to buy into the corporate hype of ANY holiday. This year was celebrated only to my 2 kids because to them it is still important {and I am not so jaded as to spoil it for them}. My darling Teen Terror (16 yr old girl) made me a beautiful card with a picture she drew herself of John Lennon. That is one "Valentine" I will hold dear to my heart for the rest of my natural born life Peace. I lost my husband to a car accident last year. This is my first Valentine's Day without him. I am soooo sorry for your loss. Hugz to you sweetie <3
RomoGuy Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) Spent Valentines day with a good friend of mine, we hung out at a Hookah bar and had a few beers, talked about life and women of course. It's hard to be happy sometimes when a breakup is on your mind, NC is the only way to go though. We are only as happy as we make up our minds to be. Love you all! God bless! Edited February 15, 2011 by RomoGuy
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