Back Burner Gal Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 So I go on Match and sign up for a month to see what's what. And I pull men with degrees between the ages of 50 and 56 within 10 miles of my zip code. 104 matches come up, and 40% are men who have never been married. What do you make of a 50 year old who's never been married. To me that screams "RED FLAG". Of course, they all write they want marriage and a 'soul mate'. What do you think? Are these messed up men?
Tiberius Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Depends i dont think there is much difference to a woman who has been married for 6 years and then divorces. In the end its like an ordinary relationship if it isnt forever, except for the financial situation.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 No, it's not a red flag. Not at all. These people deserve love, same as you do.
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I don't think they are messed up. They may have chosen career over family up to this point. But I would be cautious until I got to know them better.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I don't think it's a red flag. All it means is that they haven't been lucky enough to find the right woman. Why would it be a red flag? Sometimes a man is single that long, not because he's afraid of commitments...but because he has only found women who were.
Jazzari Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I don't think it's a red flag. All it means is that they haven't been lucky enough to find the right woman. Why would it be a red flag? Sometimes a man is single that long, not because he's afraid of commitments...but because he has only found women who were.I can think of a few concerns: 1. He's a commitmentphobe (no matter what his profile says) 2. There is something wrong with him that stopped women from marrying him 3. He's been single so long he is set in his ways and will be unable to compromise. 4. He's lying about a past marriage. None of those would stop me from dating him, but I would keep those things in mind.
Author Back Burner Gal Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Well, I'm kind of hoping it doesn't mean anything because they look good on paper. I'm new at the online thing. I signed up about 24 hours ago and have 11 emails, and they are all from guys who actually read my profile and made a good attempt at speaking to me individually (no obnoxious ones, no form emails, no minimalist "hi", none from out of the area, none outside my search criteria, etc...) All nice reasonable ones. Just kind of surprised by how many never married there are, and good looking men too. Seem personable. How is it they didn't ever get married I can't imagine. Oh well, I guess I'll find out. I'm thinking they are either lying or players or ...? One did 25 years in the military which might explain him, but the others? It just seems weird to me that so many of them are on Match.
carhill Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 What do you make of a 50 year old who's never been married? Fortunate
skydiveaddict Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) Oh, we're messed up alright. You've never even spoken to me and already I'm a "red flag". So who's really "messed up" here? Instead of these stupid dating sites, why don't you go out and meet someone for real? Edited February 14, 2011 by skydiveaddict
aerogurl87 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Maybe they've spent more time focusing on their careers than romantic relationships, hence why they're not married. And for me that would be a red flag. Although the other scenario could be they just haven't found the right partner yet, and have refused to settle. Which would be a big plus for me. But to find out which scenario applies to them, that requires you get to know them. So if they're profile catches your eye, write them. You might be pleasantly surprised with what you find.
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